People Are Sharing Red Flags That Negate All Green Flags In A Partner, And They're So True

"I'd say being unkind or stingy with the waitstaff. That's a quick and easy pass for me."

Recently, Reddit user u/WoodenInevitable1574 asked, "What is one red flag in a partner that negates all green flags for you?"

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Here's what people said:

1. "Cruelty. People can hide it pretty well sometimes, but when you see it, it’s best to dip."

—u/[deleted]

2. "Dishonesty."

—u/pretty_monotonous

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3. "Having a victim complex and being rude to people."

—u/WouldUKindlyDMBoobs

4. "Malicious manipulation of any form."

—u/PsychologicalRing959

5. "Extreme outbursts of anger."

—u/itzrx

6. "Littering. Like, blatantly. Throwing trash out of a car window for example. It's my pet peeve. Of course, I'd point it out to them first and see if they stopped doing it, but it would still be a huge red flag to me."

—u/Hippycowgirl411

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7. "Being two-faced."

—u/Street_Piece8194

8. "Cheating. Disrespect toward me. Disrespect toward others. Disloyalty."

—u/AffectionateAd2942

9. "Overbearing jealousy."

—u/Ok_Advance6558

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10. "Absurd possessiveness, as in, 'You can’t wear that.' 'You can't go there.' 'You can't talk to that guy.'"

—u/stan-twice

11. "ABUSE."

—u/obrienmk

12. "If they ever start bragging on how 'fortunate' you are to be with them and how they have a roster of people they can be with at any moment."

—u/TheJeey

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13. "Racism/hate."

—u/ihithardest

14. "If they have lots of exes, and all of them are irredeemable people. They never any mutual breakups, or they say, 'I just didn't really feel compatible with them.'"

—u/Anti-TankRanga

15. "Over-the-top solipsism. That 'I don't perceive it that way, so it cannot be true' mentality."

—u/UnoriginalUse

16. "The older I get, the more there are. I'm not dealing with possessiveness, unkindness toward people or animals, gaslighting or other manipulative dishonesty, rage problems, irresponsible financial habits, excessive bathroom humor... I'm sure there's more. And I'm not in the business of changing people. If we are talking early/first date stuff, though, I'd say being unkind or stingy with the waitstaff. That's a quick and easy pass for me."

—u/BoraBoringgg

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17. "It's a red flag if he doesn’t see his kid."

—u/Away_Proposal2615

18. "Also, how they treat boundaries. If you set one, someone is either going to test it, or they'll actively try to help you maintain it. And if they're the former, things will only get worse from there in how they treat you."

—u/fieldtripday

19. "Smoking."

—u/Early_Scratch_9611

What are your thoughts on these? Have any others you'd like to share? Post them in the comments below.

Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.