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    Posted on May 21, 2014

    Zosia Mamet Says That Women Shouldn't Have To "Lean In" To Be Successful

    "No matter what we as individual women want, no matter what our goals, we have to support one another."

    Zosia Mamet, aka Shoshanna from Girls, wrote about the definition of success in her latest column for Glamour, and explained why women should stop being so obsessed with "making it".

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    While "leaning in" is all about "encouraging women to pursue their ambitions, and changing the conversation from what we can’t do to what we can do" – Mamet is asking, "Who are we to put such a limited definition on success? "

    "We are so obsessed with 'making it' these days," she wrote, "we’ve lost sight of what it means to be successful on our own terms."

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    "As women we have internalized the idea that every morning we wake up, we have to go for the f--king gold. You can't just jog; you have to run a triathlon.... Who in her right mind would want to do that? And who would even be able to?"

    She explains that with the narrow definition of success, if she wanted to give up acting and "open a small coffee shop in Vermont" everyone would think she was "insane".

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    But points out that, equally, if she "didn't turn my little coffee shop into some world-renowned Magnolia Bakery of the north, if I kept it small and had a happy life, I probably wouldn't be considered a success at that either, which is ridiculous."

    So, basically women can't win.

    She said that women's need to succeed was a by-product of a good thing: feminism. "Feminism was meant to empower us as women, to build us up for fighting on male-dominated battlefields."

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    Mamet added that despite feminism giving us role models like Beyoncé and Hillary Clinton, "We kept the old male ideas of success: power and money. We need new ones!"

    Mamet says that women should support each other in their decisions and in their own personal definitions of success.

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    She also says that women shouldn't feel like they're "letting down the team" if they don't want to run a country, or indeed set up that small bakery in Vermont.

    "If you get off running a global hair care empire, more power to you, but if working as a hairdresser somewhere within that empire brings you joy, then that should be just as admirable. You shouldn't feel like you're letting down the team."

    Well said, Zosia. Well said.

    You can read the full column over on!

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