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    25 People Who Realized Within A Year That Getting Married Was A Big Mistake

    "When he threw my ice cream out the window."

    Ah, your wedding day — the best day of your life! Unless it's the worst. Marrying the wrong person is a serious ordeal, and recognizing it, much less extracting yourself from the situation, is not always easy.

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    So redditor u/LittleFuzzyThings wanted to know: "People who separated/divorced within one year of getting married: When did you know it was a mistake?"

    The responses indicate that people can become straight-up monsters once the deed is done (if not before). Here are some of the most shocking replies.

    Warning: This post contains mentions of physical assault.

    1. "When she nearly killed me because she thought I was cheating from some texts that were to my mother."

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    2. "A couple of weeks into our marriage, the sex started to physically hurt. I went to my OB-GYN, and after a test or two, she informed me I had contracted chlamydia. That's when I knew."

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    "Turns out, my newlywed husband had been banging his coworker for months."


    3. "I knew it was over when she started a fight at my brother's funeral because female attendees were giving me hugs as part of the condolences."


    4. "On our honeymoon. We dated for five years, but on the honeymoon, we had a big argument over my liberal use of sunscreen. She refused to wear any because of ‘chemicals,’ and I liberally use it because of my ginger skin. We seriously argued over this for a good hour, and she refused to even go into the pool with me because of sunscreen chemicals."

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    "After a scuba adventure, she could hardly walk because she got so burnt on her legs, whereas my skin didn’t change. She then tried to convince me that it was all my fault because I didn’t force her to wear the sunscreen and said the honeymoon was ruined.

    "It was then I realized I picked the wrong person. After a few more psycho arguments (mad at me because of something in her dreams, mad because I didn’t remind her to bring an umbrella...), I had to call it quits. I can’t stay with someone who constantly blames me for their own problems. Luckily no kids, and I got back everything I brought into the marriage."


    5. "When he said my son's suicide attempt interfered with his (ex's) birthday party."

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    6. "She went out for girls' night and met a new friend named Nicole at a bar. Started texting her a lot, then going to hang out now and then. We had a baby at home, and she kept trying to go hang out with this girl from another town over with no last name whom I was not allowed to meet."

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    "His real name was Wesley."


    7. "My brother died a week after the wedding. After about two months, he told me that was just too big a thing to happen at the beginning of a marriage."

    "I tried for six more months and then just gave up."


    8. "A girl I know found out, one month into the marriage, that her husband cheated the day of the wedding."

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    "After the ceremony."


    9. "The marriage lasted all of two weeks. Apparently my dad's new bride had the gall to ask my dad to leave everything to her in the will, and write me and my brother out."

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    "He got remarried after being divorced for about five years. I would have been all for it, but he met this woman in another state on a business trip and would travel up to see her every weekend after they hit it off. They knew each other for six months before getting engaged. The engagement was only for three months. My brother and I tried telling him about all the red flags, telling him to take his time.

    "My dad is very well off, and we kept trying to warn him things were moving too quickly, that she was only in it for the money. She moved her whole family from their hometown to the city my dad lived in, including their elderly grandmother, who needed constant medical supervision. Before they were even married, the pantry was full of Whole Foods brand food instead of the local grocery store, as was tradition. All new furniture, and they had the house repainted, all at his bride-to-be's request.

    "Then the will thing. Only then did he realize she was in it for the money. The next day, he had the marriage annulled. Someday I would like to know what it's like to fall so completely for someone that I don't recognize they are taking advantage of me. Must feel good for that instant before it all comes crashing down."


    10. "The day after we got married, when he slapped me across the face (hard and completely out of the blue). No argument, no conversation leading up to it, nothing. He said it wasn't that hard a hit, he was just kidding around, and I was being overdramatic. He had never gotten violent with me while dating, but as soon as we got married, it was like a switch flipped."

    "He was a COMPLETELY different person. It got worse very quickly, and I ended up filing for divorce 73 days after we got married."


    Note: If you have ANY concerns about domestic violence in your relationship, please find a safe space and contact the Hotline.

    11. "The day after the wedding, when he poked me in the chest and said, 'You're going to do what I say whether you like it or not.' Ugh. Big mistake."

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    12. "She decided she was in love with her stepbrother a month after we got married."

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    13. "The next morning, when I woke up and thought, When would be a socially acceptable time to get divorced?

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    "In hindsight, that says miles about why I felt I had to get married."


    14. "A cousin of mine married someone who seemed like the perfect woman. They worked in the same store together, and he would brag about how his wife was getting promoted quickly in the company. A few months into the marriage, she tells him she's going out with friends for the evening. An hour or so later, my cousin gets a call from one of his friends."

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    "The friend saw her having dinner in a restaurant...with the manager of the store where they both worked. Once he confronted her about it, that was basically the end of the marriage."


    15. "When I was in Iraq and she posted a picture on Facebook of her and another guy lying in bed together; it was obvious that they had just hooked up."

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    "Don’t get married to fix relationships (pro life tip)."


    16. "Not me, but a female friend knew about four to six weeks into her marriage. Her husband at the time basically spent a few years prior to marriage being a bit of a salesman to everyone. Once they got behind closed doors, his 'traditional marriage' roots really came out. They both had fast-moving careers, and while he was okay with her making money and having a career, he also expected her to cook, clean, take care of the dogs, etc., and never lifted a finger."

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    "He would just come home and pound drinks until dinnertime."


    17. "On my honeymoon, when he threw my ice cream cone out the car window."

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    18. "When she went running off with a guy she met in rehab, it was a pretty solid clue that it wasn't meant to be."


    19. "When I began working with the elderly and saw what real love and lasting marriages looked like."

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    "I knew my ex wasn’t capable of that."


    20. "My dad got back from his honeymoon and went back to work. He came home, and something felt off when he walked in the door. She wasn't there when he got home from work, which was odd, since she got off work earlier than he did and was always home when he got back."

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    "When she got back, he mentioned that it was out of the ordinary for her to be out and asked if she went somewhere. He wasn't accusatory, just curious, because it never happened, but she dodged his questions at first. Eventually, after he got suspicious about her dodging a simple question, she admitted that she'd quit her job, and when he asked why, she said she didn't need to work.

    "So she was planning on using him as her cash cow. He doesn't remember exactly how the conversation went, since it was 30 years ago. He tried counseling and asked her to get her job back, but she always brushed him off and never took him seriously. He threw in the towel seven months later, and she started trying to fix things, but it had been seven months of him trying to fix things, and she had no interest. So he filed for divorce and went on to achieve his lifelong dream: He dated and then married his middle school crush, my mom — 28 years strong."


    21. "When she fucked her ex within the first six months."

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    22. "Literally at the altar. Lemme tell ya, that's a great feeling."

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    23. "I remember thinking, I shouldn't do this as the officiant was asking for our vows. Ten years later, I'm almost free. Don't get married if you have doubts."

    "Just don't."


    24. "I knew it was a mistake deep down but wanted to be the best husband, so I decided to just let the yelling and insults slide because 'love' — until I saw her mom treating her dad the same way."

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    "It was like seeing an older, defeated, and crushed version of myself sadly smiling and saying how much we love each other, just like he did...fuck that. We had no problems, but it was toxic, so I got out.

    "This was three weeks before the wedding. I say I'm lucky, but honestly, I was young and stupid to let it go that far. Once you decide you are in love, it is amazing what you can rationalize."


    25. "When she cheated on me a week in and told me on my birthday that she never loved me. She cheated with my best friend, btw. Did I mention she told me all of this on my birthday 10 days after we got married?"

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    Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.

    So glad these folks got out — makes you want to hug your pets extra tight. If you've experienced a surprise spousal nightmare, tell us in the comments!

    If you or someone you know is in immediate danger as a result of domestic violence, call 911. For anonymous, confidential help, you can call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or chat with an advocate via the website.

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