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This week's question: How can I get that *good* sex back?
It's totally normal for sex to fall into a routine in long-term relationships. Still, it sucks.
Keep in mind that any change in your sex life might have to do with some deeper emotional or relationship stuff.
Also, BDSM requests can be particularly tricky for some people.
So here's how to ask for what you want (without destroying your partner's ego):
And here's how to ask what they want and fantasize about (without making them feel super uncomfortable and awkward):
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