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These New Empathy Cards Make It Easier To Talk About Pregnancy Loss

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D., created the cards after experiencing her own pregnancy loss.

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The cards were created by Jessica Zucker, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist specializing in women's reproductive and maternal mental health, who also had a miscarriage at 16 weeks.

Through her practice, she works with people who are struggling to get pregnant, have had miscarriages or stillbirth experiences, have terminated pregnancies, or have lost infants. "This is a way to reach people who, of course, I'll never see in my office," Zucker told BuzzFeed Life.

Zucker said she created the line after noticing a lack of sympathy cards that were actually specific and relatable to what most people were feeling.

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"A lot of the cards out there refer so much to angels and heaven and things like that," said Zucker. "For the majority of the people I know, that doesn't really resonate with them."


Another card emphasizes that grief comes in a lot of different forms, and that's OK.

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"We need to have various ways to reach different types of people in their different types of loss," said Zucker. "A lot of women don't necessarily have an experience of ongoing grief, but that doesn't mean it doesn't change their experience of pregnancy in the future, or motherhood right now, or their identity."

Whether you're hiding under your covers for a month or you're focusing on getting pregnant again, all grief is acceptable, says Zucker.


One card focuses specifically on pregnancy after miscarriage.

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After her own miscarriage in 2012, Zucker went on to get pregnant about four months later. "I made the pregnancy after pregnancy loss card because a lot of people talk about this, and I experienced this, too. I was incredibly scared for the entire pregnancy."

Zucker currently has two kids, a 6-year-old son and 20-month-old daughter.

She also created a card for announcing stillbirths and newborn loss, giving people an outlet to share the news of their loss with their loved ones.

"I'm hoping my children and generations to come can live in a society where talking about loss and grief and these types of normative life-altering events could be something that they're comfortable with."

The cards, featuring Anne Robin Calligraphy, are available to order through Zucker's website here.