Here's How To Last Longer During Sex

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    This week's question:

    Hi Bryan! First of all, this is a really common penis concern — regardless of age or sexual orientation — so you're definitely not alone.

    We've gotten a few questions like this in our inbox, so we checked in with sex expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D., founder of, and board-certified urologist Dr. Paul Gittens, founder of Philadelphia Center for Sexual Medicine.

    Here's what they had to say:

    Premature ejaculation (PE) is a super common and treatable issue.

    And it's helpful to understand some of the possible causes of coming too quickly.

    OK, so how can you actually make yourself last longer during intercourse? Well, there's the squeeze-and-pause strategy.

    You could also try a desensitizing spray made specifically for penises.

    You could also use your refractory period to your benefit.

    Or you could just put less emphasis on the actual intercourse and spend more time on everything else.

    But maybe don't try to think about baseball or math or your grandmother...

    The bottom line: Try not to stress, talk to your partner about it, and check in with your doctor if it's getting really frustrating.

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