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    27 Things You Really Need To Hear After Getting Your Heart Broken

    Because love is a cruel bitch sometimes.

    We asked the BuzzFeed Community for their best advice for dealing with heartbreak. Here’s what they had to say:

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    1. Know that it will SUCK — but not forever.

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    "It will suck harder than you thought possible, for longer than you thought possible... and then IT WILL END. You will get over it. You will realize that the rest of life is STILL awesome!" —Jennifer Nelson (Facebook)

    2. Embrace how much it actually sucks.

    3. Don't assume you should be "over this" already.

    4. Know that there's ~science~ to explain what you're going through right now.

    5. Sure, it's not fair that you got your heart broken, but that doesn't mean you should give up hope.

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    "You need to stop watching the scene in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part I where Ron leaves Harry and Hermione and pitying yourself. Ron had an excuse to be an ass. He had a HORCRUX around his neck. That boy you were with did not. He is not a Dementor; your soul is not gone. You are The Girl Who Loved. Sometimes too much, sometimes at the wrong time, and sometimes the wrong person. But you must keep loving. The world outside is enchanting. Stop letting others steal your magic." —casalena

    6. Really, the best is yet to come.

    7. But don't immediately try to find someone new to distract yourself.

    8. Take this opportunity to make some little positive changes in your life.

    9. And try to steer clear of potentially not-so-healthy behaviors.

    10. Pizza and Netflix with your best friend will help. A lot.

    11. So will Taylor Swift. / Via

    "Listen to a lot of Taylor Swift. There is something so comforting about listening to her heartbreak songs and realizing that you're not alone. And cry. Cry as much as you need to, until your eyes physically cannot produce tears anymore. Take your time to get on your feet again and believe in the fact that eventually you will be OK again. Maybe not in days or weeks... but eventually you will feel OK." —Amanda Peshock (Facebook)

    12. Don't shy away from all the things that remind you of them. Do what you want to do.

    13. But feel free to purge all that crap they left at your place if keeping it or seeing it will make you upset.

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    "Burn everything immediately." —macyh3

    14. And maybe punch something if you feel like it. Or run, whatever.

    15. If you can, give yourself a change of scenery stat.

    16. Fight the urge to get back together — you broke up for a reason.

    17. And maybe don't have sex with them one last time.

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    "Don't go for the after-breakup hookup! It will make it much worse. Not only will you feel really shitty and used but it will rekindle those feelings that you are trying to suppress." —lisal32

    18. Recognize that you may still have A LOT to learn about yourself.

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    "I would tell my 15-year-old self: That boy who just broke your heart, don't sweat about him. As it turns out, you don't even like boys all that much.'" —courtneyo4be58e320

    19. Remember that they were kinda the worst sometimes.

    20. It may not feel like it now, but you're learning A LOT from this.

    21. Just don't let this turn you into a bitter and cynical mess, either.

    22. Work on finding yourself, especially since your ~self~ may have changed since the last time you were single.

    23. Take a little time to think about the kind of person you do want and deserve to be with.

    24. Remember, this won't last forever.

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    "That horrible feeling in your chest… it goes away. And ice cream really does help." —lrumph2

    25. Unfriend, unfollow, block — do whatever you've got to do so you aren't constantly seeing what they're up to.

    26. This person maybe didn't love you as much as you deserved, but someone else will.

    27. You're right, you will literally never be the same. But... that's OK.

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    "You feel like you'll never love that way again, and it's true. With each person, it will be brand new. You'll move on after this and find another love, and it will thrill you as much as the last did, but in a different way. Look forward to it." —mabel