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19 Things You Should Have Learned In Sex Ed But Didn't

Where was the lecture on clitorises or lube or consent?

For most people, sex ed wasn't exactly groundbreaking.

1. Sex isn't just penetration.

2. There are a lot of random factors that can screw with arousal and orgasm.

3. Birth control is not one-size-fits-all.

4. STI testing is necessary and not weird at all.

5. You won't always know when someone has an STI (even if it's you).

6. Masturbation is not embarrassing, regardless of your gender.

7. The clitoris and the penis are pretty damn similar.

8. For someone with a vagina, it's not unusual to not orgasm during sex.

9. Likewise, penises aren't the end-all-be-all of sexual performance either.

10. Most of those gender stereotypes around sex are essentially bullshit.

11. Respect gender and sexual diversity — even if you don't fully understand it.

12. Condoms are the best protection against STIs and HIV, regardless of what birth control you use.

13. Consent is a principle that's relevant to every aspect of our lives, but especially our sex lives.

14. Porn can be great, but it's not meant to be a realistic guide to sex.

15. Never be embarrassed to talk to your doctor about sex. They definitely won't be.

16. Lube is your friend.

17. Talk about sex. It's fun and informative!

18. Critical-thinking and decision-making skills are incredibly relevant to your sex life.

19. And finally, there is no such thing as ~normal~.