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Jul 4, 2015

35 Easy Ways To Feel Like You Have Your Shit Together After College

Because the real world is scary and that degree did not teach us how to be functional adults.

If you just graduated in May, you might be feeling the summer slump real hard right now.

Here's you...just really trying to get a hold on life.

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There's a pretty good chance that you feel like you have NONE of your shit together.

1. Keep your day (and life) structured with little deadlines and milestones.

2. Get enough rest, which is probably more than you think you need.

3. Allow yourself to feel lost and confused, because it's normal!

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Talk to friends, write it down in a journal, or start blogging. Any exercise that helps you get out those built-up feelings and existential crises in your head is a productive one.

4. And seek out help from a professional if you think you need it.

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Venting to your friends and family can work wonders, but sometimes you need a little more than that — especially if you're dealing with symptoms of anxiety, depression, or another mental illness. If that's the case, finding a therapist you actually like can make a big difference.

5. Get outside.

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Simply going for a walk or hike with good ol' nature can help clear your head. The vitamin D boost can't hurt, either!

6. Get to bed early, and wake up early.

7. Make your bed in the morning.

8. Clean up your smartphone.

9. Get your email's shit together.

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Caroline Kee / BuzzFeed Life

Organizing and cleaning up your inbox, removing yourself from old college subscriptions, and making a nice professional-sounding signature are great ways to start. You can also start fresh with a clean slate by setting up a new account where your old school and personal emails are forwarded. Check out more email hacks here.

...and P.S. YOU NEED TO ENABLE THE UNSEND FEATURE IF YOU HAVEN'T YET. It will save your impulsive (drunk) life.

10. Come up with a go-to answer for when people ask you what you're doing these days.

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Having an automatic stock answer for the inevitable question "What are your plans?" can help you feel less stressed when you're barraged by curious friends and family. It could be that you're applying to a program with a deadline a few months from now, thinking about jobs at a few different companies, or complete BS (have fun with it and make yourself laugh a little).

"There's always the tried and true 'Not sure yet, but i'm thinking about law school.'" —Rachel Sanders, BuzzFeed Life.

11. ...But don't be afraid to admit that you are just doing you right now, and you have no clue where that will take you.

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CAN I LIVE? Admitting to yourself and others that you are completely unsure, but hopeful, about your future plans might be scary — but being honest and not feeling like you have to keep up an appearance for others can actually be very liberating.

12. If you are currently funemployed, apply to everything that seems even remotely interesting to you.

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It's completely OK and pretty normal to not have your dream job right out of college. Keep calm and apply to everything that you're even kind of qualified for/intrigued by.

13. Take your job search out of your living room to make it somewhat more enjoyable.

14. Purge your closet and buy some new stuff that inspires you.

15. Get a fresh start with a new hairdo.

16. Try some weird new workout classes to find something you actually enjoy doing.

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Always wanted to try boxing? Ballet? Now's the time. Forcing your uncoordinated, post-grad body (all of the Jameson, none of the regrets) to do a physically demanding routine can keep you from concentrating on your existential angst... even if it's only for an hour or two out of the day.

17. Or at least find a way to move a little during your Netflix binges.

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Yes, you can get fit while watching season 2 of Orange is the New Black. Or if you don't feel like multiasking, these YouTube workouts can help you exercise without a gym membership.

18. Go somewhere — anywhere.

19. Create a resume that makes people actually want to hire you.

This baby should be a work of art. Really work hard on it, get it proofread a million times, and play around with new layouts and fonts until you're confident about it. Even if you aren't hearing back from employers, you can feel good knowing that your resume was amazing. Here are 21 free templates to get you started.

20. Make to-do lists you can finish in one day, or use an app to do it for you.

This way you're giving yourself little goals to focus on that aren't GET A JOB / FIND AN APARTMENT / FIGURE OUT WHAT A 401K IS. One List is an app for iOS that makes personalized to-do lists more manageable.

21. Read (or re-read) a really good book.

22. Listen to an inspiring Ted Talk.

Especially if you kinda miss those hour-long lectures for a class you really loved. With the free TED app on iOS and Android, you can find a ton of talks from leaders committed to spreading ideas and seeking a deeper understanding of the world.

23. Use ALL your college career center's resources.

24. Actually make something.

25. Do some homework to make sure you don't spend all of your savings in the first six months after graduation

Use an app like Mint, free on iOS and Android, to keep track of your spending, create monthly budgets, and set bill reminders. If you prefer to do it manually or offline, you can find super nifty personal finance templates online for Microsoft Excel or Apple Numbers.

26. Learn how to cook something new each week.

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Not only is cooking a useful skill for life, but it's also a productive and fun way to channel your energy. For starters, here's how to make the perfect roast chicken, tangy salad dressing, sinfully good cake frosting, and more. BOOM, ADULTING.

27. Find a low-stress, part time job.

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A random part-time job can come with a lot of bonuses: a steady income, maybe some tips, or a sweet employee discount (lookin' at you, Anthropologie). Plus, it helps provide the structure and organization you might be missing after classes end. Even if it isn't something you'd ultimately put on your resume, it can help to keep you engaged and working until you find something you really want to do.

So hit up Craigslist, ask your friends for referrals, and even try it the old fashioned way (like actually walking into a shop and asking if they're hiring).

28. Keep in touch with your favorite advisors and professors.

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These people did not read all 75 pages of your senior thesis for nothing. They do still exist after graduation as a resource for guidance, connections, and future opportunities. Email them, get coffee with them, whatever.

29. Volunteer once or twice each week.

VolunteerMatch is a free, location-based app that helps you find local volunteering opportunities for stuff you're passionate about.

30. Get a hobby. Apparently adults have those.

31. Look up what famous people were doing at your age.

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J.K. Rowling was basically homeless, Tina Fey was working at the child care office of a Chicago YMCA, Oprah Winfrey had just been fired from her news anchor job...you get the idea. The point is that you're probably doing JUST FINE.

32. Surround yourself with positive, supportive people.

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These are the people you'll want around when you never hear back about that job / get your first bill you can't afford / think you'll maybe never find an apartment ever. These people will know what to say.

33. ...And distance yourself from any toxic ones.

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Even if graduation distanced you geographically, social networks make it easy to see and subconsciously engage with these sucky people. Thankfully, freeing yourself from unhealthy relationships could be as easy as unfollowing or unfriending anyone who makes you feel poorly about yourself.

34. Be present and enjoy where you are

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It could be as simple as being mindful of the community around you, or actively finding things to do in your environment which make you happy. Even if you feel like this phase or this city or this gig is temporary, ~spreading your roots~ can help you feel more grounded and comfortable.

35. And turn that big question mark on the horizon into a source of hope and excitement.

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