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Why I Don't Believe In One True Love

I swear I'm not as depressed as that sounds.

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1. The math doesn't add up.

There are approximately 7.6 billion people in the world, but the statement that says there is one person for everyone, doesn't make mathematical sense. I believe that people can have multiple people be their "soulmate", in my mind it's just that their personalities mesh well together. There are personality types for a reason, so that can identify which of their personality traits is most apparent to others. This doesn't mean that I believe that everyone could be a soulmate, some people will just not sync up, whether that be emotionally, sexually, or romantically.
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There are approximately 7.6 billion people in the world, but the statement that says there is one person for everyone, doesn't make mathematical sense. I believe that people can have multiple people be their "soulmate", in my mind it's just that their personalities mesh well together. There are personality types for a reason, so that can identify which of their personality traits is most apparent to others. This doesn't mean that I believe that everyone could be a soulmate, some people will just not sync up, whether that be emotionally, sexually, or romantically.

2. People change, like all of the time.

Remember what you were like 5 years ago? Yes, I know, horrifying, but it proves my point that people change and evolve into different people with different interests and personalities. So it would be impossible that one person would be absolutely perfect for you, just based simply off the evolution of the human psyche, and how it has evolved over time, and will continue to evolve.
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Remember what you were like 5 years ago? Yes, I know, horrifying, but it proves my point that people change and evolve into different people with different interests and personalities. So it would be impossible that one person would be absolutely perfect for you, just based simply off the evolution of the human psyche, and how it has evolved over time, and will continue to evolve.

3. People have all types of issues

Whether it be trust issues, morality issues, mental issues, or any other issue that might arise to block your trip to perfect town. I'm not saying people can't push through these issues, I believe that the human spirit is highly resilient and persistent, I'm only saying that it's incredibly difficult for some people (aka me) to push past some of their personal problems. One person in the relationship may be perfectly happy and satisfied with the relationship, but the other person could be on the complete opposite side of the spectrum, questioning their partner's motives and intentions. It only takes one person to cast doubt into a relationship, even if it is one of the people in the relationship.
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Whether it be trust issues, morality issues, mental issues, or any other issue that might arise to block your trip to perfect town. I'm not saying people can't push through these issues, I believe that the human spirit is highly resilient and persistent, I'm only saying that it's incredibly difficult for some people (aka me) to push past some of their personal problems. One person in the relationship may be perfectly happy and satisfied with the relationship, but the other person could be on the complete opposite side of the spectrum, questioning their partner's motives and intentions. It only takes one person to cast doubt into a relationship, even if it is one of the people in the relationship.

4. Social Media

I have nothing against social media, it is a brilliant way to connect with people all over the world, but there are some very evident flaws that need to be addressed. For starters, social media has the potential to be a very self-centered disguise to cover insecurities. Here, I feel like I need to say that if you have insecurities that it's going to be okay, literally everyone has them. But that doesn't mean that your feelings don't matter any less. In fact, I believe that you should confront these insecurities, and start the slow, but totally amazing journey to self-love. Easier said then done, I know. But it's 100% worth it in the end. Another thing social media causes is that it casts doubt into the relationship. And as discussed before, doubt can very easily and very quickly ruin a relationship.
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I have nothing against social media, it is a brilliant way to connect with people all over the world, but there are some very evident flaws that need to be addressed. For starters, social media has the potential to be a very self-centered disguise to cover insecurities. Here, I feel like I need to say that if you have insecurities that it's going to be okay, literally everyone has them. But that doesn't mean that your feelings don't matter any less. In fact, I believe that you should confront these insecurities, and start the slow, but totally amazing journey to self-love. Easier said then done, I know. But it's 100% worth it in the end. Another thing social media causes is that it casts doubt into the relationship. And as discussed before, doubt can very easily and very quickly ruin a relationship.

5. My experience

So this may seem a little biased, but my experience with relationships and love has not been the best. As a child of divorced parents, you kinda learn right out of the gate that your parents don't love each other anymore, and you're also immediately pitied by everyone that finds out. My mom did remarry, but you can't undo the divorce, you have to carry that around with you. Also my lack of functioning relationships, probably doesn't help my disposition to love and affection. The functioning part is mostly my fault, I'm pretty awful at trusting someone, especially with my feelings. In fact, my first relationship ended because the girl was afraid to come out to her parents, and she wanted to wait until she was financially independent of them to tell them. That was when doubt first entered my mind, "What if she never tells them?" I couldn't shrug off the idea that I had to be quiet about my feelings for her, which were pretty strong. So naturally, I panicked, and broke up with her a few days later. Then began the awful rollercoaster of trying to get rid of the feelings I had for her, meanwhile we were trying to remain friends. If you want advice on that, here's a link to another article:

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