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    People Are Sharing The Reasons They Called Off Their Weddings, And Some Of These Stories Are Truly Wild

    "I do's" that turned into big "I don't's"!

    Recently, we asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the reasons why they (or someone they know) called off their wedding. And they shared some stories. Below are some of their reasons, and yes, more than a few involve cheating:

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    1. Sleeping with the BFF:

     Girlfriend catching boyfriend cheating in bed
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    "He fucked my best friend while I was sleeping next to them.....engagement was off immediately."

    desireedallas

    2. A break of trust:

    "His mom embezzled $300k from our church. My fiancé hadn’t known, but when he did find out (after his mom was fired), he didn’t tell me. I had to find out from our pastor, the week before the congregation got a letter about the whole mess. I decided he’d have that week to tell me, but he never did. In the end, it wasn’t his mom’s actions that ended the relationship, it was the fact that he couldn’t tell me about it. I knew I wouldn’t be able to trust him to be honest with me."

    elizabethl4ec8eca0e

    3. The not-so-nice family:

    "We were very happy together and have been friends since kindergarten. His family hated me and made no attempt to hide it. Some people do fine in that situation. I, however, am not one to be treated like a kicked puppy. I told him how bad it was repeatedly, but he wouldn’t do anything about it. He just said that we were fine and the way he felt was what mattered. I ultimately decided that I couldn’t marry someone who wouldn’t take up for me."

    robynbrown41518

    4. Choosing a home over a wedding:

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    "Canceling our wedding was an amazing decision for us. We didn't own a home, had debt, and our wedding was closing in on $20k. We called it off, bought a farm, and had a friend marry us at the farm in front of our parents a year later. Our official marriage was at the courthouse on a Tuesday evening after work. Married seven years this October, and still madly in love with virtually no debt!"

    muffinheadgruber

    5. Too controlling:

    "There were so many red flags with my former fiancé, but the final straw was when I lost my insurance and he forbid me from going to Planned Parenthood for birth control."

    emmemagnolia

    6. The emotional affair (that might have been more):

    "My ex fiancé had an emotional affair with a 'friend.' She told him about her sexual preferences and he was slapping her ass right in front of me, more than once. They thought it was okay to go on a vacation together, alone for a week and she was manipulating him, which he thought was funny.

    I never thought I was going to have to police my partner's friendships, but there I was. He ended the engagement because I had 'changed,' while I am still unsure if those two were having a sexual relationship three years later. I never want to do that again."

    jennifermackay48

    7. Realizing it was all a mistake:

    Woman touching the wedding ring on her finger nervously while having coffee and waiting in cafe
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    "I got engaged to my ex after three years of dating. I didn't realize deep love really existed and thought that the fact we had mutual friends, enjoyed traveling, and were good friends was enough to make a marriage work — despite the fact that we were sexually incompatible and had different lifestyle choices.

    As the wedding drew closer, I got cold feet and tried multiple times to talk with my ex about what I was feeling, just to be shushed and told we'd work on our issues after the wedding. I spent the whole summer in a high state of anxiety. I finally called off the wedding two weeks before the big day. Such an enormous weight lifted off me.

    I met my now-husband shortly after that breakup and learned what real, deep love is and felt excitement and pure joy on our wedding day. Good lesson on not pushing a relationship that just isn't right and real love adheres to no timeline."

    reynagurl721

    8. Tried to make it work, but learned it wasn't worth it:

    "He started cheating on me the day after he proposed, and I found out six months later — when the girl gained a conscience (she knew he was engaged). I tried to make it work. We went to therapy to try and save our relationship, but after eight months of no improvement and him putting anyone and anything before me, I grew a backbone and left while he was away on a boys weekend (that he didn’t tell me about until his plane landed).

    We would’ve had to start paying the venue a month later, so at least I saved money there. However, I have a $1,200 dress credit that I’ll probably never use."

    fyeahrandaj

    9. He wanted to still be able to have sex with another woman:

    "Ex told me that if I survived six months after my double organ transplant that we could get married. When I made it to a year, we talked about venues with his parents, catering, my sister bought a dress, etc. Six months after my transplant, I found out that he was cheating on me with someone from his gaming group. He said he might still marry me — but I had to let him have sex with his other woman, and I was to keep feeding him and washing his clothes.

    I was such a doormat that I let it go on for six months before kicking him out. I flattened his engagement ring (a cheap silver thing he won at a fair years before he met me) with a hammer."

    retrocrebbon

    10. The mirror reveal:

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    "Called off my engagement within hours of being engaged on Valentine's Day. He took me out to a really fancy restaurant for lunch and booked an amazing hotel room for us to spend the night together and relax alone without our 2-month-old daughter.

    We get to the room, it’s still daylight, there is a dresser with a full-length mirror attached on the front. I remember thinking, Wow, that’s nice, but not really looking at it. Next thing, he’s down on one knee and I’m screaming for joy! Of course, I say yes! We obviously start having sex. As we finish and we’re lounging in bed together, the sun begins to set. As the sun sets the glare on the dresser mirror begins to diminish. Lo and behold, the silhouette of a woman’s face and boobs pressed against the mirror. He literally had sex with someone else hours before he asked to marry me!!! His excuse: 'it wasn’t me.' Later found out he had been having that affair for over a year."

    jennifera4e9a4e2dd

    11. COVID-19:

    "Freaking COVID. 🥺 Still haven’t gotten our money back from the venue. $10,000 in debt for a wedding that didn’t happen is a great way to start a new marriage. Yes, I’m still salty."

    aprilinc

    12. Revealed who he truly was:

    "After having major surgery on my eye that of course bruised, my then-fiancé told me he couldn’t stand to look at me. Then he started avoiding my calls, so I told him that if he can’t stand by me after one surgery, then he needed to leave. He didn’t even try to fight for us."

    makah2

    13. The breakup while watching TV:

    "My fiancé told me he didn’t love me anymore. On a Tuesday. Watching TV. It was four months before our wedding and the most expensive and humiliating time of my life. But I learned the big lessons: never settle, always have hope, and believe in love."

    emmai42441ac3e

    14. The text message Christmas breakup:

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    "Not me, but my cousin had to cancel her wedding because her fiancé dumped her. By text. On Christmas."

    funnyvalentine

    15. The man who didn't regret cheating:

    "Not me, but my mom before she married my dad was engaged to her boyfriend of seven years. Two weeks before the wedding, the guy cheated on her while drunk, and when she found out, she was upset, but she did forgive him. However, the night before the wedding, he told her that he didn't regret cheating on her because he had just been trying to live his life before he was bound to marriage. She broke it off right then and there."

    zaaaaaaaaaabby

    16. The last-minute emergency:

    "I canceled my wedding because our then-18-month-old had his first asthma attack. I was in an ambulance when I should have been walking down the aisle.

    He was fine, thankfully, and my husband and I got married the next day. Our amazing venue rearranged it all for us. Phenomenal. We were exhausted, though, and I nodded off during the speeches — oops!!!"

    rubysamba

    17. The realization:

    "I canceled my first wedding when I was around 22. I had been with him since I was 15 and thought the next step was marriage. I realized I couldn’t marry him because I couldn’t see myself waking up next to him every day. We had spent a majority of our relationship as a long-distance relationship."

    katek4161e6ae2

    18. And lastly, the meddling mom with A PLAN:

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    "This is a long one, but it’s worth the read. I was with a guy who proposed after two months of dating. It was all so fast and I was head over heels, so when he proposed with a massive diamond, I just went for it and said yes. I had nothing to lose. He said the wedding should be as soon as possible because we were so in love, and that seemed like a valid reason. And my mom was so proud of me, I was just loving all the attention.

    My mom bought me the most gorgeous dress (super expensive) and my parents paid for the whole thing. I always asked him why his parents wouldn’t pay, but my parents would butt in and say they insisted, and he claimed his family was poor, which didn’t make much sense in retrospect considering the rock he proposed to me with. My parents usually weren’t big spenders, so as our wedding day got closer, I got suspicious. I got my hands on the store he bought the ring from through some careful snooping and went into the store where he bought it to see if it was real (it was!!!). The man at the store said it was one-of-a-kind and he remembered it being bought. Apparently, my fiancé didn’t buy it, my mother did! And get this, she bought it a month before my fiancé and I started dating.

    Then I put it all together and confronted her and my father about it. It turns out, she met him through a friend and paid him to go out on our first date (to a five-star restaurant). She paid for all of our dates and, of course, my wedding because she was so desperate for me to get married and he was just in it for the money. I had come out as bisexual about a year before all of this. I wonder if it was because she was so desperate to see me with a man and not a woman. I am now dating a wonderful woman and my mother and I no longer speak."

    booklover321

    Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.