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40 Experiences To Get Through Before 35

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1. Live alone.

Growing up with parents or mentors is great. Living with roommates and going out all night is also great. But nothing compares to spreading out and enjoying your own space in your own way, with just yourself to rely on.
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Growing up with parents or mentors is great. Living with roommates and going out all night is also great. But nothing compares to spreading out and enjoying your own space in your own way, with just yourself to rely on.

2. Break someone's heart...

It's not going to be something you enjoy doing, but sometimes we end up hurting others because we don't want the same things from life as they do. It sucks, but it's life.
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It's not going to be something you enjoy doing, but sometimes we end up hurting others because we don't want the same things from life as they do. It sucks, but it's life.

3. And, of course, get your heart broken.

You'll never forget the nights when you cry yourself to sleep, but those hard times will help define you.
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You'll never forget the nights when you cry yourself to sleep, but those hard times will help define you.

4. But first, you have to fall in love.

Weak knees, butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms... the whole thing.
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Weak knees, butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms... the whole thing.

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5. Vote!

Our ancestors suffered so that you could exercise your rights. It's important! Don't skip it!
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Our ancestors suffered so that you could exercise your rights. It's important! Don't skip it!

6. Spend some time alone... without looking at your phone.

Just enjoy your own company for once. Learn more about who you are.
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Just enjoy your own company for once. Learn more about who you are.

7. Travel across the country.

It's important to get to know your culture, your roots, and the people who make up the place where you come from. It will make you a more understanding and emotionally intelligent person.
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It's important to get to know your culture, your roots, and the people who make up the place where you come from. It will make you a more understanding and emotionally intelligent person.

8. But also, visit other countries and cultures.

Traveling broadens your horizons, and makes you more receptive to other people and cultures that are totally different from your own. You'll also learn how to be more self-sufficient.
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Traveling broadens your horizons, and makes you more receptive to other people and cultures that are totally different from your own. You'll also learn how to be more self-sufficient.

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9. Make mistakes, over and over again.

it's going to keep happening, but that's okay. Let it. The key is to learn from each mistake, and to grow from them.
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it's going to keep happening, but that's okay. Let it. The key is to learn from each mistake, and to grow from them.

10. Really identify who your true friends are.

It's okay to keep bad or problematic friends for a little while, but you'll reach a certain point where you'll realize who the real deals are, and who you can trust. Spend more time with those friends, and cut the shoddy ones loose.
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It's okay to keep bad or problematic friends for a little while, but you'll reach a certain point where you'll realize who the real deals are, and who you can trust. Spend more time with those friends, and cut the shoddy ones loose.

11. And maybe lose someone you are close with in the process.

It's going to hurt like hell, but if someone is toxic, it's best to let them go. Only keep people around if they really value your friendship.
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It's going to hurt like hell, but if someone is toxic, it's best to let them go. Only keep people around if they really value your friendship.

12. Save.

Living day to day can be exhilarating and it might make you feel free, but it's great to hold onto some savings to get through the tough times. Don't even worry about saving a lot right away. Just a few bucks every now and then will help.
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Living day to day can be exhilarating and it might make you feel free, but it's great to hold onto some savings to get through the tough times. Don't even worry about saving a lot right away. Just a few bucks every now and then will help.

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13. Get a tattoo, or fantasize about getting one.

Proudly display the ideas and images that inspire you. But if tattoos aren't your thing, that's okay too.
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Proudly display the ideas and images that inspire you. But if tattoos aren't your thing, that's okay too.

14. Learn how to cook at least one meal.

When you turn 35, you should have a couple of good meals in your repertoire. It doesn't have to be the most complex dish in the world, but it's good to know how to make a few things.
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When you turn 35, you should have a couple of good meals in your repertoire. It doesn't have to be the most complex dish in the world, but it's good to know how to make a few things.

15. Kiss a stranger.

Adrenaline + temporary romance = magical moment. (Just be safe and conscientious about it, yeah?)
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Adrenaline + temporary romance = magical moment. (Just be safe and conscientious about it, yeah?)

16. Devote yourself to something that fascinates you.

And if you can manage it, get paid to do so. The satisfaction of doing what you love is more fulfilling than you ever imagined.
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And if you can manage it, get paid to do so. The satisfaction of doing what you love is more fulfilling than you ever imagined.

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17. Have an orgasm.

Even if you do it by yourself, it still counts!
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Even if you do it by yourself, it still counts!

18. Feel whole, and completely happy.

Just let go of your anxieties and inhibitions, even if it's just for a moment. Enjoy every second of that feeling.
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Just let go of your anxieties and inhibitions, even if it's just for a moment. Enjoy every second of that feeling.

19. Go see your favorite band or musician in concert.

Save up and treat yourself to seeing them live. It's such a rush!
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Save up and treat yourself to seeing them live. It's such a rush!

20. Negotiate a raise for yourself.

If you're doing a good job, why not get what you deserve?
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If you're doing a good job, why not get what you deserve?

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21. Get out of debt.

Honestly? It sucks and it's stressful. But as soon as you're done paying off your debts, you'll be a whole new person.
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Honestly? It sucks and it's stressful. But as soon as you're done paying off your debts, you'll be a whole new person.

22. Step out of your comfort zone.

It can be as small or as big as you want. Maybe it's something embarrassing, or daring, or even just something little that you never thought you'd do.
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It can be as small or as big as you want. Maybe it's something embarrassing, or daring, or even just something little that you never thought you'd do.

23. Live in a different city from the one you grew up in.

It's an experience that will help you grow as an individual, and as an adult. And you're going to have a blast.
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It's an experience that will help you grow as an individual, and as an adult. And you're going to have a blast.

24. Find a good gynecologist who you're comfortable with, and visit them regularly.

Hopefully you'll take your health seriously by the time you're 35, but just in case, don't forget to take proper care of yourself.
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Hopefully you'll take your health seriously by the time you're 35, but just in case, don't forget to take proper care of yourself.

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25. Travel alone.

It doesn't need to be a long trip, and you don't have to go anywhere fancy. Just as long as it's you and your soul, you don't need anyone else.
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It doesn't need to be a long trip, and you don't have to go anywhere fancy. Just as long as it's you and your soul, you don't need anyone else.

26. Dramatically change your look.

Even if it's just temporary, why not go for it?
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Even if it's just temporary, why not go for it?

27. Put together a toolbox and learn how to use everything in it.

It's freeing to be able to hang your own art, or change a lightbulb on your own, or to change a tire on your car without anyone's help.
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It's freeing to be able to hang your own art, or change a lightbulb on your own, or to change a tire on your car without anyone's help.

28. Do something for others.

Helping your fellow human and doing something altruistic is its own reward.
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Helping your fellow human and doing something altruistic is its own reward.

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29. Help a friend in a time of need.

It will be the ultimate test of your friendship, and will show how strong and giving you are as a friend.
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It will be the ultimate test of your friendship, and will show how strong and giving you are as a friend.

30. Raise a plant.

What better way to learn about growing up than by helping another living being grow up?
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What better way to learn about growing up than by helping another living being grow up?

31. Forgive your parents.

It's liberating to let go of past mistakes and to learn how to forgive. Accept them for who they are, mistakes and all.
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It's liberating to let go of past mistakes and to learn how to forgive. Accept them for who they are, mistakes and all.

32. Learn a new language.

It can help with your professional life, and it will make you seem like a well-rounded and educated individual. Plus, it's nice for #8.
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It can help with your professional life, and it will make you seem like a well-rounded and educated individual. Plus, it's nice for #8.

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33. Have a wild stage.

Hook-ups, benders, partying, friends... just plain fun.
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Hook-ups, benders, partying, friends... just plain fun.

34. Get to know and enjoy your sexuality.

Know yourself, and decide what you like and what you don't like without feeling afraid or guilty about it.
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Know yourself, and decide what you like and what you don't like without feeling afraid or guilty about it.

35. Say goodbye to anything that brings you down.

Whatever it is: a bad partner, a lousy friend, a city you hate, a job you don't love. By the time you're 35, fill your life with good vibes.
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Whatever it is: a bad partner, a lousy friend, a city you hate, a job you don't love. By the time you're 35, fill your life with good vibes.

36. Reunite with someone you lost track of.

Rebuild some bridges.
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Rebuild some bridges.

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37. Trust your intuition.

Have a hunch? Go with it. If you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?
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Have a hunch? Go with it. If you can't trust yourself, who can you trust?

38. Know your defects.

You have a lot of them. We all do. But also know your virtues. You have way more of those.
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You have a lot of them. We all do. But also know your virtues. You have way more of those.

39. Stop criticizing your body.

If there's something you don't like about yourself, and you have the power to change it, do it. If you can't, accept it and move on. Stop worrying about every little flaw.
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If there's something you don't like about yourself, and you have the power to change it, do it. If you can't, accept it and move on. Stop worrying about every little flaw.

40. Look yourself in the mirror, smile, and know that you love yourself just the way you are.

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