Many of us are told that the best way to achieve orgasm is through penetration, and that if there is no penetration, you're not having real sex.
This belief is so pervasive that it informs a lot of our understanding about sexuality.
But, basically all of that is nonsense.
Why do we place so much value on penetration?
If I haven't had penetrative sex, have I lost my virginity?
Ok, but if I'm going to have penetrative sex, is it normal that it hurts?
Can non-penetrative sex be as pleasurable?
So nonpenetrative sex (or at least sex that isn't solely focused on penetration) is possible, necessary, and even more enjoyable.
Now let's have some fun!