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Updated on Sep 7, 2019. Posted on Oct 3, 2017

Everything You Were Taught About Penetration Is A Lie

If you have a vagina, this should be of interest to you.

Many of us are told that the best way to achieve orgasm is through penetration, and that if there is no penetration, you're not having real sex.

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Or, at least, it's not complete sex.

This belief is so pervasive that it informs a lot of our understanding about sexuality.

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And it fuels many common misconceptions about sex, like the idea that a woman hasn't lost her virginity until she's been penetrated, or that a lesbian couple isn't having actual sex, or that it's normal for a woman's first time to be painful, or that a woman is a "cocktease" is she doesn't want to have penetrative sex.

But, basically all of that is nonsense.

Why do we place so much value on penetration?

If I haven't had penetrative sex, have I lost my virginity?

Ok, but if I'm going to have penetrative sex, is it normal that it hurts?

Can non-penetrative sex be as pleasurable?

So nonpenetrative sex (or at least sex that isn't solely focused on penetration) is possible, necessary, and even more enjoyable.

Now let's have some fun!

This post was translated from Spanish.

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