3 Reasons Meditation Will Save You From Your Drunk Aunt This Thanksgiving
It’s all fun and games at the Thanksgiving table until your drunk aunt goes for that sixth glass of wine and starts spewing her opinion on “the damn Republicans.”
Usually, I’d arrive at Thanksgiving dinner stoned out of my mind, and ready for a glass of sauvignon blanc. The cousins would catch up in the corner while the chatty older women would start nitpicking dishes in the kitchen. I’d bring the Julian Dutch Apple Pie disguised as my own creation.
But, last Thanksgiving was different…or was I different?
As the night progressed, I observed the conversations, the mannerisms, the words, and the opinions that were shared…
“Money is evil.”
“Trump is ruining this country.”
“I hate those damn Kardashians.”
Then the out of body experience happened.
I began floating above the table, using divided attention (more on that below) and witnessed myself in relation to my family.
In an instant, I uncovered where all the past programming, thought patterns, and stories had come from. The limiting beliefs, the self-deprecation, the lack.
It all came from my drunk aunt.
Kidding — but you know exactly what I’m talking about.
I immediately started scratching the inside walls of my brain for an answer. “What had changed?”
I did complete my yoga training.
I did start meditating every day.
I did start coaching others in mindset.
It all made sense. Thanksgiving was the same old turkey and stuffing shenanigans, I had simply changed through the practice of mindfulness.
It was through mindfulness that I was able to take a step away from investing myself in the conversations and allowing them to place meaning in my life.
It was through mindfulness that I was able to decide if their beliefs and stories about the world, money, and career were something I wanted to subscribe to.
No thank you, I said silently to myself as I continued to watch the charade in front of me.
So, how can you invite this experience into your holiday season? It’s easy: mindfulness.
There are 3 simple steps for using mindfulness to save yourself from the “drunk aunt” of the family.
STEP ONE: MEDITATE BEFORE YOU “MEDICATE” By medicate, I mean eat half your body weight in turkey.
Before you arrive at the party, sit down for ten and meditate. Witness the thoughts that arise, if they are anxious or stress-induced, and breathe through it.
The point of meditation isn’t to be completely thoughtless. Thinking thoughts actually releases the stress associated with those thoughts. So, if you’re anxious about your grandmother asking you for the millionth time when you’ll “meet a nice Jewish girl”, meditate on it first so you don’t end up losing your shit on dear granny.
STEP TWO: USE DIVIDED ATTENTION
Want to have an out of body experience at the dinner table without shoving shrooms in the green bean casserole? Use divided attention instead.
With divided attention, you are shifting your awareness to space above your body and witnessing yourself from above.
Visualize yourself engaging in conversation or sipping your champagne.