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    27 Things That Can Really Help You While You're Grieving

    There's no right way, but these suggestions may help you find your way.

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    We recently asked the members of BuzzFeed Community about what helps them when they're grieving. These are their stories.

    1. Attend a dinner put on by The Dinner Party.

    2. Set aside about 15 minutes each day to be by yourself in a quiet place to give yourself space to grieve.

    3. Write letters to your loved one.

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    "I lost my brother to suicide in 2013. The hardest thing is just letting myself grieve. I don't like being that vulnerable, but I've found some ways to help me cope with it. One of the most helpful things has been writing him letters. I keep him updated on everything that I can, like how his daughter is growing up and how I'm doing in college. It's silly and one-sided, but I like to think that he actually sees them. When I'm sad, I find myself doing a lot of his favorite things. I listen to all of his music and watch all of his favorite movies. And, thanks to him, now I make a damn good Captain and Coke!" —Jessica Turner, Facebook

    4. Binge-watch a lot of TV.

    5. Commemorate milestones with their favorite food.

    6. Find a local Death Cafe to talk about death and grieving with others who have experienced loss.

    7. Look through old pictures, emails, letters, and anything else you shared.

    8. Tell a lot of jokes. Shocking ones.

    9. Seek out a therapist you trust.

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    "I lost my mom a little over a year ago. It was sudden and completely unexpected. The best thing that helped me cope was seeing a family therapist. She was someone to talk to about anything, and I didn't feel as if I was burdening her with my problems. I wish people weren't afraid of therapy — it's so helpful if you have an open mind. Also, I let myself be sad for a while. It's OK to be sad." —colleene4b52cb9d4

    Here's a beginner's guide to starting therapy when you're ready.

    10. Write out all of your emotions on paper.

    11. Find a hobby that fills you with happiness.

    12. Wear their clothing or jewelry.

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    "I lost my mom almost a year ago to very aggressive pancreatic cancer. Wearing her jewelry makes me feel close with her, and I had a necklace made of a silver heart that has some of her ashes in it. That creeps some people out, but I like knowing I'm always carrying a piece of her with me (funeral homes can generally have this made for you — let them know when you're making arrangements you'd like this). Also, despite the trauma and the fact that she was my best friend, I got through everything OK. It helps to let people know that you're not in denial, you're grieving through happiness and some people will make you feel guilty for that. I personally hate when people say, 'Just talk to her! She's always listening!' So, not giving me unsolicited advice helps. I created a playlist of her favorite music and I listen to it a lot. She was always playing music in the house and it brings me back to being a kid." —Courtney Dysart, Facebook

    13. Talk to them...even if it's one-sided.

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    "I lost my big sister in 2011 when she was only 25. She died suddenly and peacefully in her sleep. I find solace in remembering little things she said or did when I'm doing everyday things, wearing a little vial of her ashes in a necklace every day, talking to her, sort of. I also sought out good therapists who helped me deal with grief as well as a tremendous amount of survivor's guilt, and I want to name one of my kids after her. It's been so hard not having her here and I miss her every day. It seems so stupid to just say 'I miss her.' I actually feel my heart aching with her not here. She was my first and greatest friend and was my greatest supporter for 22 years. I can't even describe her. Some things I wish I could tell myself four years ago: If you want to be angry, be angry, but don't let yourself stay angry; people say some really stupid things, especially when dealing with death. It doesn't excuse it, but they usually mean well. The hardest thing is just adjusting to them not being there. You never "get over" someone passing away, you just adjust." —Kelly Prziborowski, Facebook

    14. Honor them through poetry.

    15. Don't judge yourself for grieving.

    16. Take care of others as a way of taking care of yourself.

    17. Try switching to a new kind of diet.

    18. Accept the way you feel, no matter how you feel.

    19. Write stories infused with details about your loved one.

    20. Take comfort in mourning with others.

    21. Take a hike.

    22. Honor them by living life the way they would have wanted you to live.

    23. Remember to take things one day at a time.

    24. Make a playlist of the songs that remind you of them.

    25. Know that grieving comes in waves and it has its own schedule.

    26. Celebrate life when you feel like celebrating.

    27. And be normal when you feel like being normal.

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    "I experienced a traumatic death in my immediate family a few years ago. I found that being with my normal friends in my normal routine is what helped me grieve. Often, I didn't need a person to talk to, because I had been overanalyzing the situation so much already on my own. All I needed was a little normality." —emmajanew2

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