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    Matthew Gray Gubler Has Love Advice For You So You Should Probably Take It

    Because who else would you listen to?

    This is Matthew Gray Gubler.

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    You may know him as Spencer Reid from Criminal Minds.


    Or as Joseph Gordon-Levitt's supportive BFF in (500) Days Of Summer.

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    In his movie Newness, which premiered this week at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival, Gubler plays a comedic best friend character — one who also has some wise words about love.

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    Matthew Gray Gubler with his Newness costars, Nicholas Hoult, Laia Costa, and director Drake Doremus at the 2017 Sundance Film Festival.

    Because of his ~expertise~ on love, BuzzFeed News asked the actor for more of his key relationship advice.

    On long distance

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    "Relationships are like a fire and the distance is like air. Sometimes the wind will blow the fire into a larger flame and sometimes it will extinguish it."

    On being on your cell phone


    "I would try to eliminate the phone, in general, from your relationships because it is the enemy of being present. It feels to me, when you're with someone you really love, you never look at your phone."

    On telling someone you love them


    "Well there are two version of this answer. I would say, 'Go for it! Do it! Tell her you love her!' But also, I'm a coward at heart and I'm wearing my mother's sweater so you can imagine. It wasn't until like 3 years to call a girl on the phone so it took awhile. I understand any sort of hesitance but you gotta go for it. Now more than ever."

    On the unpredictability of love


    "Life is like a rollercoaster -- I'm just making this up -- there are ups and downs and a height requirement."

    To the non-believers


    "Aww, you have to believe in love. That's the most important thing. I refuse to believe that there's no one out there for you. Even the biggest Scrooge McDuck deep down believes [in it]. Maybe they were hurt by love and now don't believe in it, but you always have to believe in it. It's the most beautiful thing in the world."

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