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Take This Quiz To Test Your BDSM Knowledge

There's more to it than whips and chains and tight latex suits.

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  1. 1.

    Let's start out easy. What does BDSM mean?
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    Bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism
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    Bondage and domination, submission and masochism
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    Bondage and daddies, sadism and mommies
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    Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism
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    Bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism.

    Ok, so it's not 100% an acronym, but all of these terms are combined because BDSM can be lots of different things for different people — everyone has their own unique preferences. Most of the time, a person's interests will fall into one or two of those categories, rather than all of them.

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    When would someone use a "safe word"?
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    When they want their partner to cuddle with them
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    When they want their partner to be more intense in the BDSM activity
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    When they want their partner to be less intense or stop the BDSM activity altogether
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    When they want to include a third person in the BDSM activity
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    When the submissive partner wants the dominant partner to be less intense or stop the BDSM activity altogether.

    While a "safe word" usually means that the submissive partner wants the dominant partner to stop the activity, some partners might agree upon another word that indicates they want the experience to be less intense.

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    Someone who participates in "vanilla" sex _____.
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    Enjoys eating vanilla ice cream and/or having it spread on their body during sex
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    Usually doesn't get involved in BDSM/fetish activities
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    Has a fetish for only white people
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    None of the above
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    Someone who participates in "vanilla" sex usually doesn't get involved in BDSM/fetish activities.

    And just FYI, it's not meant to be a derogatory term at all.

  4. 4.

    "Sensual domination" involves submitting to another person's wishes and gaining pleasure from it, but...<br />
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    There is never any violence, aggression, or humiliation involved
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    None of the partners are allowed to touch each other
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    There are never any tools, like ropes and blindfolds, involved
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    The sub also has no say in when the activity will stop
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    Sensual domination doesn't involve violence, aggression, or humiliation.

    Though there may still be tools — and maybe even mild pain — involved, these are never meant to push the submissive's limits. Rather, they are meant to complement the pleasure. And even though there isn't pain involved, people taking part in sensual dominance should still agree on a safe word just in case the interaction takes the sub out of their comfort zone.

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    Tell us what a "scene" is.<br />
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    When you seek out a professional to help you act out one of your fetishes
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    When you and your partner role play
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    When you use chains, whips, and gags on your partner
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    When you and your partner partake in psychological play, without actually having intercourse
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    All of the above
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    All of the above can be considered scenes.

    That's because a "scene" is any situation in which BDSM activity is taking place. It can include anything from role play and spanking to domination with or without a professional. It's also true that sexual intercourse isn't always part of the deal.

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    The term "switch" refers to which of the following?<br />
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    A rod, typically made from wood, that's used for punishment
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    A person who sometimes participates in BDSM as a dominant and other times as a submissive
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    When you pause in the middle of a BDSM scene to pee, drink water, answer a phone call, etc
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    When, during a threesome with one dom and two subs, the dom tells the sub who's watching to switch places with the other
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    A and B
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    It's A and B.

    A "switch" can refer to a rod used for punishment OR a person who participates in BDSM as either a dominant or submissive, but at different times.

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    A top could refer to a dom or a ____, while a bottom could refer to a sub or a ____.<br />
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    Punisher; cryer
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    Giver; taker
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    Sadist; masochist
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    Hater; lover
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    It's sadist and masochist.

    Sadists enjoy inflicting pain and masochists enjoy receiving it.

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    The acronym "SSC" represents a pillar of BDSM practice. What does it stand for?
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    Safe, sane, consensual

    BDSM is all about safety and consent. That includes going into each scene on the same page as your partner(s), honoring safe words when they're said, and of course, being as safe as possible during the entire thing.

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    Psycholagny is when you reach orgasm through ____.
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    Mental stimulation and fantasy alone
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    Hypnosis
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    A conversation with a therapist
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    Controlled stimulation that keeps you on the cusp of orgasm, aka edging
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    Psycholagny is the ability to reach orgasm through mental stimulation and fantasy alone.

    No physical stimulation necessary.

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    After a BDSM scene, a sub might be in a state of mind known as...
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    Subheading
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    Subspace
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    Subclarity
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    Subdual
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    Subspace

    It's described as the "natural high" that a bottom might have after an intense physical or emotional experience. It might be so strong, actually, that the sub might even feel disconnected from space, time, and/or their body, and their ability to communicate might not be 100%.

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    When a sub is in that state of mind, it's important for their dom to provide what?
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    Body worship
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    Dominant assurance
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    A reality check
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    Aftercare
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    Aftercare

    Subspace can be an especially vulnerable moment for the bottom, and depending on how intense the scene was, the amount of time it takes for the sub to come back to reality can vary. Aftercare might be necessary for one or both partners, as it allows them to see to each other's emotional and physical needs outside of the scene. It can include being away from any sort of visual, auditory, or physical stimulation; cuddling; providing food or drinks, like water; and more.