For the past couple weeks, it seems like you can’t turn on the TV or browse the internet without hearing all about R&R – and not kind that you do over Labor Day weekend on a boat or in a cabin somewhere. No, I’m talking about the Tampa kind: Republicans and Rape.
But if there’s anywhere on the internet with more rape-vibes than a right-wing blog, it’s internet dating sites. For example, this hilarious man apparently thought the following “About Me” section of his online dating profile would drag in all the ladies:
I am very blunt at times I just speak out loud whats in my heart …. Even right now I am thinking that wasn’t Life much more easier when all a guy had to do is approach a girl saying
Guy “Excuse me?”
Guy “I find you very attractive”
Girl “Really? thank you”
Guy “Would you mind turning around?”
Girl ” Why Of course not”
Now all he has to do is get a tight grip on her hair & drag her back to his cave :P
LOL smiley. Physical violence and implied sexual assault? Normal dating stuff. A wish to return to easier times when men could rape with impunity? Who among us hasn't felt a bit nostalgic those traditional values? Datin' and rapin': Not what they used to be.
Then there is this totally emotionally stable fellow:
There are a lot of things to love about that description, but his identity as “not a little pervert” might be my favorite — and a huge warning sign.
Creepy dudes on the internet are also careful to distinguish between “legitimate rape” (official term: “rape-rape”) and a variety of “kinda rape but not, like, RAPE-rape” behaviors. Said internet dudes will use them as a way to entice you into a romantic rendezvous in their big black windowless vans:
And of course “surprise sex”:
But really, proto-rapists on OkCupid want one thing: To respect your womanhood. They just want you to be real ladies — ladies who they can love and trust to raise their children and always have dinner on the table, and not disgusting liberal femi-nazis who have daily abortions and demand things like “respect” and “rights.” They just want a return to the good old days, when men were men and women were serving them in every aspect of their lives. If you act like a lady, lady, I can promise your Match.com dance card will be full and you’ll be ready to embark on a life of happiness with fine gentlemen like this:
In all seriousness, not every guy who mentions rape on his online dating profile is a clearly horrible creep (even if almost every guy who mentions rape on his online dating profile is a clearly horrible creep). This final gentleman, for example, should probably take over writing this column:
You are correct, good sir. You are correct.
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The A(n)nals of Online Dating is a weekly column about How We Date Now, from the proprietor of the website of the same name, showing off the best of the worst internet dating has to offer.
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