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17 Actually Helpful Dating Tips For Anyone Dealing With Anxiety

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We asked the BuzzFeed Community for their best dating tips for people with anxiety. Here's what they had to say.

1. If you're socially anxious, try online dating — it takes away a huge amount of pressure.


"You get to avoid those awkward nights where you're like, 'I wonder if I'll even meet anyone at this bar.'"


5. But don't force yourself into anything! If you don't feel comfortable, they're not for you.

6. There are simple ways to relax your mind before a romantic evening, like listening to music you love.

"Pick a song you know you love by your favorite band, and take a few deep breaths while listening."


7. But also know it's 100% OK to dip out on plans if you feel like you're too anxious.


"The physical effects of anxiety sometimes make me sick in public, and that can be a bit of a downer."


8. If you can't find the words to explain to your S.O. how you're feeling, try a different method, like writing a letter.


"The letters have helped him understand how my mind works, and makes it easier for us to communicate."


10. Allow yourself to be impulsive every once in awhile.

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"I just blurt out whatever I'm feeling at the time! If I start to overthink, I'll panic and get paranoid, and then I chicken out."


13. Let your partner know that anxiety attacks are unpredictable and there aren't always a reason for them.


15. Know that while you need support, you can't rely on your S.O to be your backbone.

"Anxiety disorders take lots of self work."


Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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