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21 Life-Changing Dating Tips Every College Student Needs To Know

You don't have to find "the one."

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We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they wish they knew about dating in college. Here are their amazing dating tips.

1. Don't get into a relationship for at least the first month or two of college.

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"You'll end up spending a lot of time focusing your significant other, and might miss out on college's other opportunities and friendships!"

Submitted by Isabel Lane, Facebook

2. Don’t do the long-distance thing (unless you're positive that your heart is in it).

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"Every situation is different. One couple I knew actually ended up getting married, but they only saw each other once a year for, like, eight years."

Submitted by sarahelizabethl499500690


3. If you and your high school boo end up at the same college, expect some changes in your relationship.

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"College brings new experiences, and opportunities for people to change. Sometimes that can be a good thing!"

Submitted by exikaylinec

4. No matter what, don't let your relationship hold you back. College is YOURS to enjoy.

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"If your S.O. is trying to stop you from experiences you want to try (no, not hooking up — think more like studying abroad), don't stick around!"

Submitted by annakopsky

5. If you have any control over it, avoid dating anyone who lives in your building.

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"If there's a chance you'll see that person frequently, it will be difficult AF to get over the relationship if it ends badly."

Submitted by lexik45f38ce76


7. You don't have to find ~the one~.

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"Don't feel like college is when you need to find the person to spend your life with. If it happens, great. If not, that's great too!"

Submitted by Miranda Coker, Facebook

8. If your relationship isn't making you happy, don't waste your time with it. Relationships are supposed to make you happy.

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"If it feels like you're constantly trying to fix things or make yourself fit with another person, end it!"

Submitted by Torie Ellen, Facebook

9. But in all seriousness, if your mental health is at stake because of your relationship, seek help.

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"Remember you're not alone. Many of us have ended up feeling awful as a result of a college relationship, but never feel afraid to confide, get guidance, and treat yo'self!"

Submitted by Roby Johnson, Facebook


11. It's perfectly OK to not text the person you're dating 24/7. Enjoy life IRL!

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"You might have done that in high school, but in college, it's not sweet anymore — it's kind of irritating. A few times a day is plenty."

Submitted by Laura Katherine Smith, Facebook

12. And be very careful when drunk-texting that person you're on and off with.

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"I wish someone would have warned me to avoid drunken text conversations with someone I hooked up with, because they rarely ended well."

Submitted by Maci Peterson, Facebook


15. Hookups have a different effect on everyone.

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"Be prepared for the person from *that* night to either reach out, or completely ghost. There are people who will sleep with you and then only text you for homework answers."

Submitted by reneelynnt


20. Make sure that you love YOURSELF before starting a relationship.

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"If you can love yourself single, you'll learn what you like, and you're less likely to settle for the first sleazebag who comes along."

Submitted by Katie Russell, Facebook

21. And, most importantly, you don't have to date at all, if you're not actually into anyone.

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"Don't just date because others are dating; date if you're seriously into someone!"

Submitted by Sara J. Moore, Facebook

Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.