“Stay safe from violence” (directed at victims of abuse) vs. “Stop doing violent things” (directed at abusers). See the difference here? See also: “don’t get raped” vs. “don’t rape.” It’s putting the impetus on the victim instead of the perpetrator to prevent the crime. Hence, victim-blaming. This tweet may have been well-meaning, but it came off as really condescending.Asimple “happy birthday, we love your music, haveagreat day!” would have beenabetter birthday message instead of makingabarely-veiled reference to an abusive relationship.