Health·Posted on Aug 20, 201515 Incredibly Frustrating Similarities Between Therapy And DatingOK, this is clearly not working — do I really have to stay for the full hour?by Anna BorgesBuzzFeed StaffFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink Trying to find a therapist is daunting, to say the least. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF FOX / Via symonetownley12.tumblr.com Especially because having a great connection with this person is super important. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF ABC / Via agirlandhershows.tumblr.com This is your mental health, after all. You definitely want to take your time and find someone you mesh with. If you've spent much time looking for a therapist, you may have noticed it can feel eerily similar to another tedious search in your life...dating. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF FOX / Via giphy.com Sure, both are worth it in the end, but that doesn't mean the process doesn't suck sometimes. 1. You don't even know where to start looking for the right person. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Disney / Via replygif.net So many fish in the sea. 2. Going online is fine and all, but it's hard to judge how well you'll ~mesh~ from that alone. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF ABC / Via whatshouldbetchescallme.tumblr.com Like, good to know you have a degree and everything, but why is your online presence so VAGUE? 3. You consider letting your friend set you up with someone they've heard good things about (or maybe even tried themselves), but that's...weird. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF FX / Via netflixanonymous.tumblr.com There are few things you don't want to have in common with your friends, but someone who knows all of your neuroses and vulnerabilities just might be one of them. 4. You have to make a decision about who's your ~type~. CBS / Via BuzzFeed Birds of a feather or opposites attract? Would you do better with cognitive behavioral therapy or psychotherapy? Are you really equipped to decide what your perfect match would be? 5. You always seem to have to decide between convenience and connection. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via miscgifs.tumblr.com Is a promising match really worth that hour commute on public transit? 6. You stress before every first meeting wondering what they'll think of you. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via gifsmile.com WILL THEY LIKE ME? 7. You know within, like, the first five minutes if it’s not going to work out, but you feel like you need to stick it out to be polite. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF brazzers.com / Via reddit.com We both know this isn't going well...can't we just call it a night? 8. You don’t know how much you should really reveal the first time you meet. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF CW / Via markshepphardon.tumblr.com Like, do you play it cool and pretend to have at least some of your shit together? 9. You're secretly (or not so secretly) really curious about who else they're seeing. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Warner Bros. / Via mobandroyalty.tumblr.com You know it's maybe inappropriate to ask, but you kinda want to know how you stack up. 10. You eventually get really good at asking the right questions to see if the two of you will be compatible. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF OWN / Via buzzfeed.com 11. But just when things seem to be going well, they might say something that makes you want to yell. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF LogoTV / Via giphy.com Whoa. Did you just low-key slut-shame me? 12. You think about calling off the search every time you suffer through a miserable hour with someone new. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF ABC Family / Via onnarcoticswithyou.tumblr.com Seriously, it can't be worth all this stress. 13. Or maybe you consider sticking with someone who's mediocre, just to avoid getting back on the market. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF PBS / Via dontbesodroopy.tumblr.com 14. And when you DO find someone decent, you wonder how soon is too soon to call for a second meetup. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Disney / Via relateforteens.tumblr.com I DON'T WANT TO COME ON TOO STRONG. 15. But eventually, you really do find someone who gets you and makes you feel comfortable, heard, and understood. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via agirlandhershows.tumblr.com If you still haven't found a great therapist, don't lose hope. This guide to starting therapy is a great place to start.