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    15 Incredibly Frustrating Similarities Between Therapy And Dating

    OK, this is clearly not working — do I really have to stay for the full hour?

    Trying to find a therapist is daunting, to say the least.

    Especially because having a great connection with this person is super important.

    If you've spent much time looking for a therapist, you may have noticed it can feel eerily similar to another tedious search in your life...dating.

    1. You don't even know where to start looking for the right person.

    2. Going online is fine and all, but it's hard to judge how well you'll ~mesh~ from that alone.

    3. You consider letting your friend set you up with someone they've heard good things about (or maybe even tried themselves), but that's...weird.

    4. You have to make a decision about who's your ~type~.

    5. You always seem to have to decide between convenience and connection.

    6. You stress before every first meeting wondering what they'll think of you.

    7. You know within, like, the first five minutes if it’s not going to work out, but you feel like you need to stick it out to be polite.

    8. You don’t know how much you should really reveal the first time you meet.

    9. You're secretly (or not so secretly) really curious about who else they're seeing.

    10. You eventually get really good at asking the right questions to see if the two of you will be compatible.

    11. But just when things seem to be going well, they might say something that makes you want to yell.

    12. You think about calling off the search every time you suffer through a miserable hour with someone new.

    13. Or maybe you consider sticking with someone who's mediocre, just to avoid getting back on the market.

    14. And when you DO find someone decent, you wonder how soon is too soon to call for a second meetup.

    15. But eventually, you really do find someone who gets you and makes you feel comfortable, heard, and understood.