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What It's Actually Like To Be Really Sensitive

I'm not crying, YOU'RE crying.

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4. Or DEVASTATED by bad things.

6. But actually, being a Highly Sensitive Person is a thing that exists.

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Roughly 20 percent of people are actually biologically wired to be more sensitive and responsive to the world around them — and that manifests in so many different ways. The trait was originally researched by psychotherapist Elaine Aron, Ph.D., who went on to write The Highly Sensitive Person, which is pretty much the original handbook to HSPs. You can find out more about it here.

7. Both men and women can possess this trait.

It's pretty much half and half actually, according to The Highly Sensitive Person.

8. Being sensitive =/= being weak.

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Plenty of people are (rightfully) super proud of the intuition, empathy, and emotional intelligence that comes with being sensitive, even if those things aren't typically associated with ~strength~. Which, ugh.


9. Please don't tell us that we shouldn't take things so personally. Because we might anyway.

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Unfortunately, that's just a side effect of having all these emotions. (But we do try — it just doesn't always work.)

11. We're not necessarily introverts, but we're definitely comfortable being alone and daydreaming.


Plug us into a good playlist, put us on a moving vehicle, and give us a window to stare out of, and we can be good for hours. Rich inner lives, ftw.

12. You'll probably think we take art, music, and entertainment way too seriously.

What do you mean you don't want to read my 17-page meta about Sansa Stark? WHAT DO YOU MEAN THEY'RE FICTIONAL CHARACTERS???


13. We might react with emotions first, because we can't just turn them off.

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That means that sometimes our first reaction to something is a tad irrational. But we'll get around to logic in a moment, don't worry.

16. Sometimes the world gets a little overwhelming, so we need to withdraw for a bit.

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Don't be worried or offended if you don't hear from us for a few days. We'll just be over here recovering from sensory overload.


23. And it's distracting and nerve-racking as hell to be watched while we're working.

People who hover are THE WORST.


26. We tend to crave deep connections, so don't be freaked out if we skip the small talk and ask you personal questions.

how easy do you think it would be for us to rob a bank right now and are you willing to go in first

do you think of yourself as more of a temperate woodland squirrel or a bushy mountain squirrel

how many goldfish are you personally responsible for murdering

We just want to get to know you.