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Here's How To Sext Without Feeling Like An Idiot

First of all, NO UNSOLICITED DICK PICS.

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Sexting is one of those things you're just kind of expected to figure out as you go along, and it can be hard to know how to sext in a way that's *actually* sexy instead of cringey.

To help you out, we asked members of the BuzzFeed Community for their best sexting tips. Here's what they had to say about upping your game and avoiding some awkward conversations.

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5. Take all the necessary precautions for sending ~nudez~.

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Never show your face. Ever. Also, whenever you send a nude, consider putting a different watermark on the picture when you send one to a different person. That way, if it ever gets exposed or somehow ends up on social media, you know exactly who did it.

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(Pssst, here's a guide to safely sending your nudes.)

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11. Ask your partner about the fantasies they have so you can weave them through your sexts.

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12. Maybe don't spring something on your partner if you haven't talked about it before, especially if it's kinky or ~out there~.

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My biggest sexting tip is to get to know what they like, so that when you're in the mood, your kinks don't put them off. Take three minutes to just ask them what they are into.

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13. Reference the specific little things you know they like, not just things that turn *you* on, and they'll probably follow your lead.

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That way you’ll be focusing on getting each other hot, while also getting turned on yourself. It’s not nearly as fun or enjoyable if each person is only talking about things that give them pleasure.

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16. But also make an event of it if you want to. Like, go all in.

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I really like to set the mood when I'm texting. Like, crawl into bed naked with a vibrator and my girl's sexts. I'm not above lighting a candle either.

—Anonymous

19. Reread your texts before you send them, because typos can reeeally kill the mood.

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Once I was having a pretty heated sexting convo. But once he said he couldn't wait to "duck me hard," it pretty much ended right there.

—Angie, Facebook

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21. Beware of rereading your texts later when you're not ~in the mood~ anymore.

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I have said some verrrry graphic things in the heat of the moment, and then the next day felt like I could die. Like, "Haiii, can I borrow your phone real quick so I can delete that shit I said?" Yikes.

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