First, a definition:
And you can do it on virtually every social media platform.
The most popular DM slide is on Twitter, but Twitter has its problems.
And never forget: the JR Smith disclaimer.
Know what Drake, ballers, and groupies know: Instragram DM is lit.
WHICH IS WHY INSTAGRAM IS THE DM GAME CHANGER.
So how do you...like...do Insta DMs?
To send someone a DM, you HAVE to send a photo.
Then select a recipient, add a caption (or not), and a message, like a reasonable facsimile of a human.
Best Practice: Send a funny animal pic.
Remember: The goal is to get off the app.
As with Tinder, messaging on Instagram just feels silly. It's not something you want to be seen doing in public, and there's the constant feeling that someone at Instagram HQ is having a good laugh at your conversation. You want to get to the text level ASAP.
There is no hard and fast rule for how many exchanges it takes to ask for a number, but the longer you wait, the more chances there are for the conversation to stall, for the window to close. Generally keep it to 10 exchanges or fewer before you suggest moving it to a more intimate (read: texty or Facetime-y) level of communication.
If you're nervous about asking a lady to move to that next stage, borrow this tip: Text her some combination of the iPhone emoji and a question mark. She will figure it out.
But what if she never sees the DM?
There are some challenges to the Instagram DM, mainly, that some people don't even know it exists. Or because of their notification settings, they may never know they received a message.