Posted on Apr 20, 2017

Do You Want To Help Millenials Fix Their Love Lives?

We need your advice.

by Angelo Spagnolo

BuzzFeed Staff

These are real relationship woes from BuzzFeed staffers who desperately need your help.

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Names have been changed to protect the innocent-ish.

Our first question comes from Zelda, 27, who says:

Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months. When I asked him to come out to dinner to meet my mom, he freaked out. He said it was too much pressure. That's a red flag, right?

Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months. When I asked him to come out to dinner to meet my mom, he freaked out. He said it was too much pressure. That's a red flag, right?

Yeah, duh, nine months is firmly in "meet the parents" territory.

Yeah, duh, nine months is firmly in "meet the parents" territory.

Eh, It's understandable if he's not ready to meet your mom.

Eh, It's understandable if he's not ready to meet your mom.

Definite red flag, what is he afraid of?

It shouldn't be an outright dealbreaker, but you deserve a thorough explanation for his hesitance.

It shouldn't be an outright dealbreaker, but you deserve a thorough explanation for his hesitance.

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Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months. When I asked him to come out to dinner to meet my mom, he freaked out. He said it was too much pressure. That's a red flag, right?

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Our next question is from Wario, 26, who says:

My boyfriend sometimes won't text me back for days. We spend enough time together, and he says he's "just not a texting person" but sometimes I feel like he likes ignoring me. Is this a problem?

My boyfriend sometimes won't text me back for days. We spend enough time together, and he says he's "just not a texting person" but sometimes I feel like he likes ignoring me. Is this a problem?

Yes it's a problem. He knows the lack of communication bothers you and he still does it.

Yes it's a problem. He knows the lack of communication bothers you and he still does it.

Eh, text-shmext, if you spend a lot of time together, why does it matter?

Eh, text-shmext, if you spend a lot of time together, why does it matter?

Some texts are more important than others. If he doesn't get back to you when you really need an answer, that's a bad sign.

Some texts are more important than others. If he doesn't get back to you when you really need an answer, that's a bad sign.

Communication is issue numero uno in a relationship: if you can't find a happy compromise between both of your texting needs, that's a red flag.

Communication is issue numero uno in a relationship: if you can't find a happy compromise between both of your texting needs, that's a red flag.

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This question is from Toad, 25, who says:

I've been dating this guy for about four months and I recently noticed he still has dating apps on his phone. Is that okay? Should I ask why he hasn't deleted them?

I've been dating this guy for about four months and I recently noticed he still has dating apps on his phone. Is that okay? Should I ask why he hasn't deleted them?

You're four months deep. What does he need apps for? Call him out on it.

You're four months deep. What does he need apps for? Call him out on it.

If he still has the apps he's obviously looking for more validation than you can provide, that doesn't seem good for either of you.

If he still has the apps he's obviously looking for more validation than you can provide, that doesn't seem good for either of you.

Eh, dating apps are just something fun to check while you poop.

Eh, dating apps are just something fun to check while you poop.

It's time to DTR: define the relationship. If you're *official* the apps need to go.

It's time to DTR: define the relationship. If you're *official* the apps need to go.

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I've been dating this guy for about four months and I recently noticed he still has dating apps on his phone. Is that okay? Should I ask why he hasn't deleted them?

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This next question comes from Dixie, 29, who says:

I briefly dated a girl, Yoshi, and we remain friends. I just went out with a girl, Samus, and it turns out Yoshi and Samus are friends. I’m really interested in Samus. Should I give Yoshi a heads up, or should I wait to see how things go before saying any

I briefly dated a girl, Yoshi, and we remain friends. I just went out with a girl, Samus, and it turns out Yoshi and Samus are friends. I’m really interested in Samus. Should I give Yoshi a heads up, or should I wait to see how things go before saying anything?

Don't say anything, you'll spoil it before things even heat up.

Don't say anything, you'll spoil it before things even heat up.

You should talk to Yoshi, transparency is always the best policy.

You should talk to Yoshi, transparency is always the best policy.

Did Samus and Yoshi date? If not, it shouldn't matter either way.

Did Samus and Yoshi date? If not, it shouldn't matter either way.

Sounds like a recipe for drama, I'd avoid the whole situation.

Sounds like a recipe for drama, I'd avoid the whole situation.

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I briefly dated a girl, Yoshi, and we remain friends. I just went out with a girl, Samus, and it turns out Yoshi and Samus are friends. I’m really interested in Samus. Should I give Yoshi a heads up, or should I wait to see how things go before saying any

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This question comes from Kirby, 25, who says:

My regular hook-up likes so many other girls' pics on Instagram. Like, a couple is okay, because we’re not official. But is it a bad sign that he likes so many sexy pics?

My regular hook-up likes so many other girls' pics on Instagram. Like, a couple is okay, because we’re not official. But is it a bad sign that he likes so many sexy pics?

Yes, if he likes so many knowing you can see, imagine what he's doing in the DMs?

Yes, if he likes so many knowing you can see, imagine what he's doing in the DMs?

Eh, if you're not really gonna claim him officially, he can do whatever he wants.

Eh, if you're not really gonna claim him officially, he can do whatever he wants.

Bad sign. Liking a bunch of sexy selfies is fuckboy behavior 101.

Bad sign. Liking a bunch of sexy selfies is fuckboy behavior 101.

Why are you even creeping on his likes?

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Our last question comes from Dry Bones, 23, who asks:

We’ve been good friends, with occasional hookups, for four years. Every time we hook up I realize I have strong feelings for them. I confessed my love but they said they don’t feel the same way. Can we still be friends?

We’ve been good friends, with occasional hookups, for four years. Every time we hook up I realize I have strong feelings for them. I confessed my love but they said they don’t feel the same way. Can we still be friends?

Lol, no, you can't still be friends.

If you want more out of this relationship than they can give, it's probably not gonna work out.

If you want more out of this relationship than they can give, it's probably not gonna work out.

Sure, if things are basically the same as they've been, why not?

Sure, if things are basically the same as they've been, why not?

You confessed your love. If you go back to casually hooking up, they'll think they can have you without any emotional investment.

You confessed your love. If you go back to casually hooking up, they'll think they can have you without any emotional investment.

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Do You Want To Help Millenials Fix Their Love Lives?

These are real relationship woes from BuzzFeed staffers who desperately need your help.

Our first question comes from Zelda, 27, who says:

Okay, I've been dating my boyfriend for nine months. When I asked him to come out to dinner to meet my mom, he freaked out. He said it was too much pressure. That's a red flag, right?

Our next question is from Wario, 26, who says:

My boyfriend sometimes won't text me back for days. We spend enough time together, and he says he's "just not a texting person" but sometimes I feel like he likes ignoring me. Is this a problem?

This question is from Toad, 25, who says:

I've been dating this guy for about four months and I recently noticed he still has dating apps on his phone. Is that okay? Should I ask why he hasn't deleted them?

This next question comes from Dixie, 29, who says:

I briefly dated a girl, Yoshi, and we remain friends. I just went out with a girl, Samus, and it turns out Yoshi and Samus are friends. I’m really interested in Samus. Should I give Yoshi a heads up, or should I wait to see how things go before saying any

This question comes from Kirby, 25, who says:

My regular hook-up likes so many other girls' pics on Instagram. Like, a couple is okay, because we’re not official. But is it a bad sign that he likes so many sexy pics?

Our last question comes from Dry Bones, 23, who asks:

We’ve been good friends, with occasional hookups, for four years. Every time we hook up I realize I have strong feelings for them. I confessed my love but they said they don’t feel the same way. Can we still be friends?

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