I recently reached the ripe old age of 30, and as a millennial woman, that's no small feat.
Millennials grew up during a really intense and stressful time in history, to begin with.
Being a woman on top of it has been ~an experience~.
1.Many millennial women grew up being taught rules that were straight-up toxic. So much of what our parents preached taught us to put others' needs before our own, to shrink and diminish ourselves for the comfort of men, and that our lives could only look a handful of ways.
2.Let's talk about career options. Millennial girls were taught girls could grow up to be anything — but were discouraged from actually pursuing that.
3.They also encouraged us to go into debt for our education.
4.Even if you got an education, you were reminded that a career shouldn't matter to you more than a relationship and the all-important path to marriage.
5.We were taught that being smart and pretty were both really important, but you could only be one.
6.If you were smart, that was your WHOLE identity, and maintaining it was more important than anything else.
7.For the pretty girls, you were expected to build your future around your looks.
8.Did I mention we were constantly bombarded with reminders that being skinny was the only way to be beautiful?
9.Some of us had families where having any big feelings was written off as being "dramatic."
Others had parents who were debilitating-levels of involved in their lives.