15 Unpopular Opinions About Sex That You May Or May Not Agree With
"I just don’t get how you can have sex with someone you aren’t with."
Recently, we asked the BuzzFeed Community to share some of their most unpopular opinions about sex. Here are the best responses:
Note: Obviously everyone's bodies, experiences, and interests are different, so keep doing your thing. Just make sure you communicate with your partner or partners and always have consent.
1. Missionary is actually the superior position.
"It’s like making out but better, and way less aggressive than other positions."
2. Putting your mouth on someone's butt isn't cute.
"Eating ass is nasty. That is all."
4. Sex right before sleeping can feel like a chore.
"I hate sex right before bed. I've already wound down, I'm ready to sleep, and very tired. The last thing I want is cardio."
5. Sometimes, giving a hand job is better than anything else.
"I prefer giving my guy a hand job and then saying good night. I'm just not that into sex. If I want an orgasm, I take care of business myself."
7. "Cowboy" isn't great, whether you're on top or the bottom.
"As a gay man, I hate the cowboy/reverse-cowboy positions. I hate it as a top because I don't have the control, and I hate it as a bottom because it's basically intense exercise and I always feel like my hip ends up cramping."
8. Taking forever to finish is incredibly frustrating.
"I dated a guy who would take fucking forever to finish. After 10 minutes, I’d be bored and sore and screaming in my head for him to finish. Sex doesn’t have to be a marathon every time; sometimes all you need is a sprint!"
"You get 30 minutes TOPS before I start fake-moaning and 'Oh baby'–ing you. Ain’t nobody got time, energy, mental capacity, or whatever for all that."
9. And changing positions too much can be exhausting.
"Sometimes I’m like, 'OMG, STOP AND JUST BANG! THIS IS TOO MUCH WORK!"
10. Not everyone likes their neck to be kissed.
"I can’t have my neck kissed or touched because I’m so ticklish."
11. Foreplay is more fun than sex.
"I’m into kink, so I guess that’s why I feel that way...I don't know. I like foreplay to last a good, long while, but the actual sex? Not so much."
13. Sex without a serious emotional connection isn't enjoyable.
"No judgment to anyone else, because this is just me, but honestly, I just don’t get how you can have sex with someone you aren’t with. I have to have a serious love connection. I wish I could view sex without any strings attached the way other people do, but I can’t."
14. Having sex spontaneously isn't clean or sanitary.
"If you’re having sex with someone who has a penis, get them to wash it first!"
15. Partnered sex is overrated.
"In my experience, all partnered sex is lame. Honestly, it’s just too much work for too little reward."
What are your unpopular sex opinions? Tell us in the comments below.
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.