15 Stories About How Sex Ed Is Taught In India That Should Really Horrify You
"We weren't allowed to discuss with the boys what we were taught."
BuzzFeed recently conducted a survey of what sex education is like in 77 countries. These are their findings from India:
1. "At 21, a female friend of mine asked me what a clitoris is."
2. "I was in an all-girls school and my teacher was constantly giggling and smiling to herself while explaining how sex worked."
"I was in an all-girls school and my teacher was constantly giggling and smiling to herself while explaining how sex worked. We weren't told what to do and what not to do or what to expect. Nothing about feelings either. It was purely scientific. I think it is because Indian society just assumes that adult men / women just magically know this information once they get married."
— Swati, 22
3. "Was mostly part of the biology course, anatomy and STIs."
"They said that attraction to the opposite gender was normal and a product of hormones. Nothing further."
4. "We were in an all-girls convent. Our sex education class was taken by an 84-year-old nun."
"She told us that masturbation and condoms are anti-life as they kill potential children. One should only have sex after marriage and only have sex to conceive. She discouraged us from ever meeting boys alone as they would only want one thing. She told us scary stories about students in our school who had gotten pregnant during socials. And of course we got a hell load of anti-abortion lectures."
5. "We weren't allowed to discuss with the boys what we were taught."
6. "It wasn't really sex education. More like information about puberty and the bad consequences of having sex."
7. "Our school straight up SKIPPED the human reproduction chapters in middle school."
"So if it was up to just academics and teachers to teach us about the human body, I wouldn't have known anything about sexual intercourse up until I was about 17, which is messed up. When they conducted the sex ed seminar in the 11th grade, it only covered the basic heterosexual intercourse. So if my knowledge about sex was to come from what my school 'taught' me it would be this: get married, talk to husband about STIs, penis in vagina, the end."
8. The process of sex itself was left out from, well, SEX ed.
"All the knowledge about the two distinct reproductive systems, but not a single idea and how they conjugated. The process of sex itself was left out from, well, SEX ed. I know there are other sources to learn this from, but it is necessary to give clear ideas about the process and how to carry it out properly.
(Also how the fuck do you put on a condom? 15-year-old me, asking myself while learning sex ed for the first time)."
9. "It was done in a very secretive manner, as if it were a meeting of Dumbledore's army."
10. "Don't ruin 60 years of your life for six minutes of fun."
"I remember back in the eighth grade, girls and boys were taken separately into our school's auditorium. We were taught about contraception, and the man who was teaching the class said, 'Don't ruin 60 years of your life for six minutes of fun,' and to this day, I find it hilarious.
We were also only taught about sex that one time. Nobody would mention sex otherwise."
11. "The only sex ed we received was as part of biology syllabus in high school."
"We were fortunate to have a science teacher who (despite being VERY strict) didn't skip the sex ed part of the biology syllabus, unlike many teachers in other parts of India. She even taught us about XXY and XYY. We learnt some stuff about contraception, condoms, safe sex and STIs. But it was all very "technical". Also, sex wasn't described as pleasurable either, just a means of reproduction."
12. "We were basically told how not to indulge in sexual activities before marriage for our own good and safety."
"We were also taught about safety measures one needs to take while sex. Also about the diseases, like STI, HIV, transmitted through sexual activities and how one can prevent it etc."
13. "We were separated by gender."
14. "I literally watched porn for the first time and found out about body parts I had no clue I even had."
"I only remember learning about the reproductive cycle. I cannot recall ever having a sex Ed class. In fact, up until I was 16, I was clueless about even the most conventional (penis and vagina) definition of sex. I literally watched porn for the first time and found out about body parts I had no clue I even had. We first had a reproductive cycle chapter in 9th grade, and all of us were busy laughing as opposed to paying attention. There is so much taboo regarding sex and sexuality that nobody openly discusses it."
15. "There was no sex ed in my school."
"I don't know what's wrong with people who think that sex ed is not required and people who are too shy to even talk about it openly."