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    Posted on 23 Jun 2017

    6 Happy Coming Out Stories That Will Really Make Your Week Better, Trust Me

    Amidst the violence and subjugation our friends face every day, here's a little bit of proof that not everyone is intolerant.

    1. Kartik Sharma

    Kartik Sharma

    "The very first time I came out was to my best friend Anshuman. This was some ten years back. I have known him for longer than a decade now and he is one of those genuine people who loves others for who they are. Hence, I felt he must know the truth. And, knowing him, I knew we would never part ways because of my sexuality.

    When I came out to him, the first thing Anshuman asked me was, 'Why did it take you so long to tell me? Did you never realise that your sexuality would never affect our friendship. We are friends not because of your sexual identity, Kartik. You’re still my friend and we’ll always be, the way we are.'

    Since then, there was no looking back. That's when I realised I have a family outside my own. That family was Anshuman. His words of acceptance made me happier all the more."

    2. Akshay Raundhal

    Akshay Raundhal

    "I came out to my girlfriend of two years. Curse me all you want because I deserve it. I was at the weakest point of my life when I decided, 'No. I can't be this double agent juggling between my girlfriend in real life and going online to look for guys similar to me'. I was 17 when a random (hot) stranger knocked some sense into me that I needed to tell her the truth. She was the first person I came out to. Her response: 'Watching too many TV shows these days?'

    This beautiful, one in a million weirdo who deserves the best in her life accepted me without holding any grudges and is one of the strongest pillars of my life. It's been three years since I came out to her. We've had our ups and downs but the bond still remains. She is finally happy with someone who truly deserves her. She helped me accept the fact that I belong to the world of rainbows. And guess what? She even attends queer events with me as an ally. Now who doesn't want a catch like that?"

    3. Sudhanshu Latad

    Sudhanshu Latad

    The first person I ever came out to was my best friend Yash. I still wonder what I would have done if he had reacted otherwise on that day. I was in 9th Grade, and my 13-year-old brain was strong enough to know and accept my sexuality, but not enough to come to terms with saying it out loud to someone.

    On that random day, I texted Yash after a normally dreadful day at school. In the middle of our regular texting, I blurted out that I had a confession to make. Patient as he was, he asked what it was, and if he needed to worry. I had reached the point of no return, where he was determined to find out what I was hiding, and my brain, anxiously overthinking as always, started coming up with different scenarios of homophobic reactions. After all, expecting an 'it's okay' would have been foolish of me. Finally, after mentally going through a flash of various disastrous potential outcomes, our broken friendship being the worst amongst them, without giving it another thought I said those three words for the first time to another person: 'I am gay.'

    Let's just say, the mood of our conversation shifted slightly from 'I am worried' to 'I kinda knew'. All in all, it was that day that I realised that this chap was never letting me go, hook or crook. It was really surreal that in a society where people do not even know much about the term 'gay' I was accepted by my straight best friend, in a humorous way. His acceptance has made me strong. Made me believe that I and many others like me can be accepted and loved. I hope every small town Sudo has his Yash at that point of time in his life where one needs someone to talk to desperately."

    4. Koninika Roy

    Koninika Roy

    "I came out to my sister in the stupidest way possible. Over WhatsApp. I think it was about a year ago when I had gone abroad to study. Being three years older than me and single, she kept getting bombarded by Indian aunties telling her to get married. One day while discussing this frustrating phenomenon, I told my sister, I am glad that I won’t have that problem. That I won’t be asked those questions. To which she paused and said, 'yeah, lucky you'. I then had to confirm so I said to her, 'You know, because I’m bi and I don’t want to marry a man'. She said, 'yes, I know'."

    5. Sumit Pawar

    Sumit Pawar

    "This is when I was in college. My college was conservative and I was also not so out and free to talk about my sexuality. I used to behave differently in college, as if I was living two different lives. One day, I met all my friends at a gymkhana and one of my friends showed me a picture of me and my ex-boyfriend kissing.

    I was shocked and wondered how they got this picture. They told me this picture was found by one of my college friends and it was shared with everyone. People had made desktops background n all. I was so shocked and didn't know how to react.

    Later, I called my friends and told them everything about me. They were like we knew before only, but they don't want intrude. From that day onwards, they became my support system, and I have never looked back. Those friends are still with me and continue to give me unwavering support."

    6. Saurabh Bondre

    Saurabh Bondre

    "At 28 years, my career was going steady, so my parents started looking out for a bride for me. Meanwhile, I was already dating men. Once, I went on a blind date with a guy. The date didn’t click, but some serious discussion with him about future life left me wondering whether marrying a girl was the right thing. After intense introspection and contemplation, I realised that my interest in same sex relations would never fade away and marrying an unsuspecting girl would destroy her and my life.

    I decided not to get married, and told my parents so. Initially I kept dodging their questioning about the reason, but finally I relented and came out to them. I told them that, although bisexual, I always dreamed of a life with a boy and couldn’t keep a girl happy.

    Just like any other parents, my family went through all the troublesome phases of acceptance, but they never denied the truth nor asked me to conceal my identity. Gradually but surely, they accepted me the way I am.

    My mother says she is happy for me. My father reiterated that he was proud about my virtues and personality and my sexuality didn’t affect his love for me.

    It’s the unconditional acceptance of my family which gave me the courage to come out to friends, relatives and others, and to openly participate in community events."

    The stories have been edited for length and clarity.