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5 Must-Have Self Help Books

I was never big on reading. Maybe it's because I am a millennial but if you were to ask me a few months ago, I would've chose an hour of Netflix or Instagram browsing people's highlight reels of their perfect lives rather than pick up a book. That wasn't until I found the self help aisle. Yes, I said it- self-help, don't judge me. That aisle definitely gets a bad rap. But aren't we all just trying to be the best versions of ourselves? The first one I read was The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** and I finished it within the first week of buying it. It was then that I realized I needed to read things that related to not only real life, but could be related to my life. The following 5 are great not only because of their advice, inspiration and insight but because of the motivational stories of the authors themselves: their stories and their struggles. From low self esteem, to organizational skills, relationship advice (both friends and lovers!), self-care, letting go, etc all 5 of these texts are full of great insight, stories, ideas and more. There is much to explore.

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Make peace with food? Sounds simple enough right? Wrong. If you're anyone like me who has suffered from a food/body/weight obsession, I strongly believe it's crucial to pick up this book. Unlike a lot of other self-help books, this one is honest. I appreciate this book because I came across it when I needed it most. Personally this book spoke to me because it was real. There aren't any run-on sentences about stuffing your body with chocolates and fried food and calling that self love- it's about nourishing your body with what it needs. This may be controversial but as someone who is recovering from an eating disorder myself, I have been on the fence with the "self-love" movement because of the many ways certain people interpret it however Mel Wells showed what self love is REALLY about. My favorite point she made in the book was that food (or lack thereof) is not a reward and it is not a punishment. Her tips on how to act and feel like a Goddess in your every day life is not only fun to read, but fun to practice in real life.

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I truly believe that most people can relate to this book. Sure you may say to yourself "I'm not the one who shops in the self-help aisle" but for anyone who has been held back by their own negative thoughts (hello, everybody?) then this is an important read. Plus, it's interactive by including little journal activities throughout. For me, reading a chapter and reflecting back at it in relation to my own life, by answering the questions in the "Inspo-Action" sections was fulfilling and felt somewhat like therapy. She doesn't only talk about food but relationships, work, etc. It is about connecting with the real you, and not the you who may have the tendency to self destruct.

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Gala Darling is an inspiring, motivating author and human. My favorite part about her was that she dares to be different and best of all - loves it! She gives solid, concrete examples on how and where to practice radical self love. She explores different activities such as tapping, manifesting, meditating, etc. And last but not least, she explores every connection from friendships, sex, jobs, relationships, and more.

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The title may be aggressive but if you're the type of person who easily gets upset, stressed and reactive, this is a book I strongly suggest picking up. It isn't about not caring- it's about caring about what is important to care about and letting go of the rest. Not giving a f*** doesn't mean you have to become idle and float through life. It is quite the opposite. It gives you advice on how to glide through life by truly figuring out what is important to spend your time on. The title may not suggest it, but it's all about crushing the expectations of being positive all the time and seeing the good in everything by realizing that some things just suck. The book is against the "let's all feel good, all the time and see the light in everything" mindset by teaching you how to accept what you don't like and moving on. When we accept, we in turn become more positive, productive humans.

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Not going to lie, I needed this book. Get Your Shit Together is similar to The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** whereas the author explains how to let go of the pressures from people around you. My favorite part is the structure she builds around three main metaphorical components: your wallet, phone and keys. She gives great tips on how to be more productive at work, in relationships and (my favorite) the self-care department. "How to stop worrying about what you should do so you can finish what you need to do and start doing what you want to do": pretty self explanatory.

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