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    People Are Sharing Things Everyone Should Know Before Having Sex For The First Time, And It's All Accurate

    Two words: "Pee afterwards."

    So this week redditor u/lettuce18_ asked, "What's something everyone should know before having sex for the first time?" and people really came through with some A+ pieces of advice for newbies!

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    So, with that in mind, here are just a few things people believe everyone should remember before they have sex for the first time:

    1. "Porn is to actual sex what kung fu movies are to actual fighting."

    u/jbakes64

    2. "It's OK to not know what you're doing. Talk to your partner; ask what feels good and what's not so good. Communicate."

    u/Engineering-Neither

    3. "Make sure you know how to put on a condom properly. Rip the edge of the casing, and find which way it rolls (without unrolling it). Roll it down towards the base of the penis while pinching the reservoir (tip) with one hand while you roll the rest down with your other hand. The purpose of the 'pinch' is to eliminate any air in the condom, because air can cause it to rip."

    u/bodaciousboner

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    4. "Dont be afraid to use lube. It's not unlikely that the person — who will be the receiving partner — may not produce enough lubricant on their own. This could be because of a lot of factors (like stress, for example). Invest some time in foreplay."

    u/innocent_girl18

    5. "Reaching orgasm shouldn’t be the only goal. Relax, explore each other, and have fun."

    u/MG_Scott12

    6. "When she's 'close,' DON'T change anything. Don't speed up, don't switch techniques, don't, don't, don't...just stay steady with what's working."

    u/tgm1024

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    7. "I say this every time this question is asked: Don't squeeze the boob so hard."

    u/ResponsibleHippy

    8. "Be willing to laugh. One time during doggy, my boobs started actually clapping — like, they were making an actual clapping noise. It sounded like someone was applauding us, and I couldn’t hold in my laughter. Once my partner realized I wasn’t laughing at him, he was laughing too. It made the whole thing 10 times better, and I was a million times more comfortable around him afterward."

    u/SaveTheLadybugs

    9. "There will be smells and weird noises. Get over it."

    u/theridebackhome

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    10. "Yes, you CAN get pregnant the first time you have sex."

    u/TheDarkKnight1035

    11. "You’re always, always, ALWAYS allowed to change your mind, no matter how far along things are or how close to finishing someone is. Anyone who says otherwise is not someone you want to get involved with."

    u/capraithe

    12. "It's about rhythm, not force."

    u/changomaniaco

    Two people in the throes of sex
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    13. "I think sex is just like doing anything else. When you want to be successful, you need to research, practice, and develop a comfort level with your own sexuality. Research different types of sex and activities, find out what interests you, and focus on how to give pleasure to the other person."

    u/OwnBackground6676

    14. "The hole is lower than you think."

    u/invasive-ad-program9

    15. "Before you have sex with anyone, wash your ass. Literally get in there and scrub it clean. The alluring smells of sweet sex can instantly be ruined by the smell of dirty ass."

    u/ddhmax5150

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    16. "Sex is for fun and intimacy, not a time to be 'impressive.'"

    u/Snowfreak2507

    17. "Don’t put sex on a pedestal. It’s not some sacred act reserved only for the making of offspring. Nerves are inevitable, but enjoy it."

    u/Kellogsbeast

    18. And finally: "Pee afterwards."

    u/Zahfier

    Now it's your turn! What's one thing you think everyone should know before having sex for the first time? Share your best piece of advice in the comments below!

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    Note: Some responses were edited for length and/or clarity. H/T: Reddit.