Posted on Jan 22, 2021

I'm Genuinely Curious Whether Or Not You've Done These Morally Questionable Relationship Things

BE. HONEST.

by Allie Hayes

BuzzFeed Staff

The rules here are simple: Respond HONESTLY to the following ~morally questionable~ relationship questions and we'll show you if others have done the same. Don't worry, we don't show anyone how you personally responded, so be as honest as possible! Ready? Okay, here we go!

1. Starting off simple — Have you ever lied to a partner to save their feelings about something unimportant (like enjoying a movie, food, game, etc. that you didn't)?

Yes

A couple times, but not often

No

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1. Starting off simple — Have you ever lied to a partner to save their feelings about something unimportant (like enjoying a movie, food, game, etc. that you didn't)?

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2. Have you ever read texts that pop up on your partner's phone without permission?

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Yes

A couple of time, but not often

No

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2. Have you ever read texts that pop up on your partner's phone without permission?

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3. Have you ever eaten a partner's leftover food without asking first?

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Once or twice, but not often

No

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3. Have you ever eaten a partner's leftover food without asking first?

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4. Have you ever turned your phone over so that a partner couldn't see who was texting you?

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Yes

One or twice, but not often

No

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4. Have you ever turned your phone over so that a partner couldn't see who was texting you?

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5. Have you ever "borrowed" a partner's things (clothes, tech, etc.) without asking first?

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Yes

One or twice, but not often

No

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5. Have you ever "borrowed" a partner's things (clothes, tech, etc.) without asking first?

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6. Have you ever watched a movie or episode of TV alone that you were supposed to wait to watch with a partner, then lied about it?

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Once or twice, but not often

No

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6. Have you ever watched a movie or episode of TV alone that you were supposed to wait to watch with a partner, then lied about it?

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7. Have you ever lied to a partner to get out of hanging out with their friends?

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Yes

Once or twice, but not often

No

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7. Have you ever lied to a partner to get out of hanging out with their friends?

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8. Have you ever referred to someone at a job (who is not your partner) as your "work spouse"?

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Yes

Once or twice, but not often

No

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8. Have you ever referred to someone at a job (who is not your partner) as your "work spouse"?

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9. Have you ever confided in someone else about issues you were having with a partner before going to the partner directly?

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Yes

One or twice, but not often

No

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9. Have you ever confided in someone else about issues you were having with a partner before going to the partner directly?

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10. Have you ever had anyone in your phone under a fake name/nickname so that your partner doesn't know who it is — even if it's just a friend?

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Yes

Once or twice, but not often

No

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10. Have you ever had anyone in your phone under a fake name/nickname so that your partner doesn't know who it is — even if it's just a friend?

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All right, that was easy enough, right? WRONG. Here come some more specific, situational questions:

11. You're at a bar with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute offers to buy you a drink. Do you accept?

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Um...a free drink? HECK YES. My partner and I will laugh about it later.

Um...a free drink? HECK YES. My partner and I will laugh about it later.

I'd let the person know I'm in a relationship first, but if they still want to pay for it, I'm not saying "No"...

I'd let the person know I'm in a relationship first, but if they still want to pay for it, I'm not saying "No"...

That's a HARD NO from me.

That's a HARD NO from me.

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11. You're at a bar with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute offers to buy you a drink. Do you accept?

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Um...a free drink? HECK YES. My partner and I will laugh about it later.
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I'd let the person know I'm in a relationship first, but if they still want to pay for it, I'm not saying "No"...
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12. You're at a club with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute asks you to dance. Do you accept?

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Sure! Dancing isn't cheating...

Sure! Dancing isn't cheating...

I'd invite their friend group to dance with my friend group, but no one-on-one dancing.

I'd invite their friend group to dance with my friend group, but no one-on-one dancing.

Absolutely NOT. That's basically cheating.

Absolutely NOT. That's basically cheating.

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12. You're at a club with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute asks you to dance. Do you accept?

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Sure! Dancing isn't cheating...
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I'd invite their friend group to dance with my friend group, but no one-on-one dancing.
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Absolutely NOT. That's basically cheating.

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13. Your partner tells you a secret (nothing serious, just juicy gossip) and SPECIFICALLY asks you not to share it. How likely are you to share it?

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I'm a vault. I'm not sharing it with ANYONE, no matter how juicy.

I'm a vault. I'm not sharing it with ANYONE, no matter how juicy.

I'd only share it with my best friend(s) — it's a given I'd tell them!

I'd only share it with my best friend(s) — it's a given I'd tell them!

Oh, if I know, everyone knows. They know I can't keep a secret.

Oh, if I know, everyone knows. They know I can't keep a secret.

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13. Your partner tells you a secret (nothing serious, just juicy gossip) and SPECIFICALLY asks you not to share it. How likely are you to share it?

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I'm a vault. I'm not sharing it with ANYONE, no matter how juicy.
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I'd only share it with my best friend(s) — it's a given I'd tell them!
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Oh, if I know, everyone knows. They know I can't keep a secret.

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14. And finally — an ex whom you haven't seen in years wants to meet for dinner to "catch up." They know you're in a relationship, and you're still on good terms with them. Do you ask your partner's permission to go, or just go?

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I don't need their permission. I'm not a child. If I want to go, I'm going.

I don't need their permission. I'm not a child. If I want to go, I'm going.

I'd ask my partner if they're comfortable with it because I care about their feelings — but at the end of the day, the decision is mine to make.

I'd ask my partner if they're comfortable with it because I care about their feelings — but at the end of the day, the decision is mine to make.

I'd only go if my partner gave me expressed permission to go, and I'd expect my partner to do the same for me.

I'd only go if my partner gave me expressed permission to go, and I'd expect my partner to do the same for me.

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14. And finally — an ex whom you haven't seen in years wants to meet for dinner to "catch up." They know you're in a relationship, and you're still on good terms with them. Do you ask your partner's permission to go, or just go?

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I don't need their permission. I'm not a child. If I want to go, I'm going.
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I'd ask my partner if they're comfortable with it because I care about their feelings — but at the end of the day, the decision is mine to make.
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I'd only go if my partner gave me expressed permission to go, and I'd expect my partner to do the same for me.

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I'm Genuinely Curious Whether Or Not You've Done These Morally Questionable Relationship Things

The rules here are simple: Respond HONESTLY to the following ~morally questionable~ relationship questions and we'll show you if others have done the same. Don't worry, we don't show anyone how you personally responded, so be as honest as possible! Ready? Okay, here we go!

1. Starting off simple — Have you ever lied to a partner to save their feelings about something unimportant (like enjoying a movie, food, game, etc. that you didn't)?

2. Have you ever read texts that pop up on your partner's phone without permission?

3. Have you ever eaten a partner's leftover food without asking first?

4. Have you ever turned your phone over so that a partner couldn't see who was texting you?

5. Have you ever "borrowed" a partner's things (clothes, tech, etc.) without asking first?

6. Have you ever watched a movie or episode of TV alone that you were supposed to wait to watch with a partner, then lied about it?

7. Have you ever lied to a partner to get out of hanging out with their friends?

8. Have you ever referred to someone at a job (who is not your partner) as your "work spouse"?

9. Have you ever confided in someone else about issues you were having with a partner before going to the partner directly?

10. Have you ever had anyone in your phone under a fake name/nickname so that your partner doesn't know who it is — even if it's just a friend?

All right, that was easy enough, right? WRONG. Here come some more specific, situational questions:

11. You're at a bar with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute offers to buy you a drink. Do you accept?

12. You're at a club with friends (your partner is not present) and someone cute asks you to dance. Do you accept?

13. Your partner tells you a secret (nothing serious, just juicy gossip) and SPECIFICALLY asks you not to share it. How likely are you to share it?

14. And finally — an ex whom you haven't seen in years wants to meet for dinner to "catch up." They know you're in a relationship, and you're still on good terms with them. Do you ask your partner's permission to go, or just go?

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