Adults Shared Things They Think Every Teen Should Know, And It's Incredibly Enlightening
"You shouldn't believe those who say these are going to be the 'best years of your life.'"
Listen — I remember being a teen...which is a sentence that already makes me sound ancient. ANYWAY, I recall how obnoxious it sometimes was when adults tried to give me advice I didn't ask for.
However, this week when redditor notViperX asked, "Adults of Reddit, what is something every teenager needs to know?" the responses were shockingly helpful, human, and wholesome.
So with that in mind, here are just a few genuine nuggets of wisdom that can truly benefit teens (and, let's be real, adults) in the future:
1. "I’ve said this before, but it’s important: When someone says you 'can’t' do something in your life, it means they couldn't do it, not that you can’t."
2. "It's okay to say no to ANYONE. Do not let anyone in your life guilt-trip you into doing something you don't want to do or that you're uncomfortable with."
3. "If you don't have a passion yet, try learning new skills. You just might find your passion, or at least something you're good at!"
4. "It's exactly as lame NOT to do something you want to do because it's 'too mainstream' as it is to do something only because the 'cool kids are doing it.'"
5. "The measure of whether someone has the potential to be a new friend of yours is NOT whether they like a bunch of things you like.
"It is entirely possible to become friends with people who like a ton of things you’ve either never heard of or even already decided that you dislike. Making a new, true friend often takes much longer than movies and shows make it look. Far too many people in their early twenties report having 'no friends,' and it's likely because they made a premature judgment that one or more prospective friends were off the list, when they just needed a lot more time to get to know them."
7. "If you have the option, learn a second language. It's good for your brain, and it's a lot easier when you're young."
8. "When you get to driving, realize that the laws of physics do also apply to you. Slow down and don't horse around — you're driving a very heavy machine at speeds we did not evolve to deal with. Overall, be safe!"
9. "If you can, start trying to save money now. You will definitely thank yourself later on."
10. "While you shouldn't believe those who say these are going to be the 'best years of your life,' try to make the most of it and enjoy the ride. Also, don't be ashamed of your hobbies and passions. Anyone who makes fun of that can go fuck themselves."
11. "Learn to trust your gut when you find yourself in strange situations. If something feels off or wrong, it probably is. Don't go along with something if it feels wrong."
12. "Advice is free, but if you always respond to it with 'I know,' then you're probably not going to figure out your problem."
14. "When you make a mistake, own up to it. People are more willing to help you when you admit you did a dumb thing. This goes for school, work, and personal life. Forget to make a payment on a loan? Call and talk to the finance company. Mess something up on a school project? Tell your teacher and ask for help. People will always be more willing to help you if you openly communicate."
15. "Most of your friends are the product of geographic convenience. Just because you grew up being friends with a neighbor or a fellow student doesn't mean you owe them your undying loyalty when they start treating you like shit."
16. "Do not be afraid to ask out the person you like. If you suffer from anxiety (like me), then at least try to work on it. I went through my teenage years without even trying to talk to girls, and now that I'm 19 and I have the chance to look back at high school, I 100% regret it."
17. "Everyone is smart, just with different things. People can be book smart, people smart, machine smart, etc. The difference between people who succeed and people who don't is the application and dedication they give to the things they're 'smart' with."
Now it's your turn! Adults, do you have any honest, sage advice for teens? And teens, how do you feel about this advice, and do YOU have any advice you'd like to share with adults? Sound off in the comments below!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity. H/T: Reddit.