The thing about writers is that they are alive and they write, and they draw on the experience of the former to work on the latter. If you become part of a writer's life, you may very well end up in their work. This means they like you and they think about you a lot. Be — or at least act — flattered when this happens.
If in doubt, remember: "Everything you say in bed is going to show up in a poem." —Saeed Jones