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    Updated on Aug 19, 2020. Posted on Aug 11, 2014

    10 Essential Tips For Dating A Writer

    "Everything you say in bed is going to show up in a poem."

    Writers are a weird lot.

    They are weird because they are equal parts artist and philosopher; this makes them a nightmare to date.

    The best advice for dating a writer is, of course, to avoid dating a writer at all costs. However, if you feel compelled to do so, here is some advice to help you navigate the consequences of your decision.

    1. Take your writer to a coffee shop.

    2. Be honest about your favorite author or book. Don't lie and say you like something you really don't. Writers can detect a book lie immediately and they don't like book lies one bit.

    3. Accept the fact that they will write about you.

    4. Accept the fact that they will write about you and it may not be nice.

    5. If a writer shows you their work, they want one of two things: critique or support. Give it to them.

    6. Young adult lit, like Harry Potter, is a safe zone.

    7. Learn the balance between encouraging them and making them (more) miserable.

    8. Writers are like horses: You shouldn't be allowed to get one unless you can offer them lots of space.

    9. Don't let them get away with being an asshole.

    10. And finally, prepare yourself to be loved.

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