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    19 Things To Help You Relax When You're About To Lose It

    Because sometimes "keep calm and carry on" is something I CANNOT DO.

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    1. An oral stress relief dropper made of herbal extracts that may help banish all your worries in just a few seconds.

    I've been using this product for years and I absolutely love it!

    Promising review: "I learned about this from my local health food store about seven years ago. I was working a stressful job that gave me anxiety every time I pulled into the parking lot. The lady at the store recommended I try this and I was sold! I put some under my tongue as soon as I pulled into the parking lot and it relaxed me pretty quickly and I remained calm throughout my shift. If it was a particularly stressful day, then I'd take a few more during my shift. You don't have to worry about taking too much as you can take as many drops as you need. I travel everywhere with a bottle for when that anxiety decides to creep up. It does have a strong alcohol taste to it, but since I only put four drops under my tongue it goes away after a few minutes." —Jo G

    Get it from Amazon for $8.79+ (available in two sizes).

    2. A cozy heating pad to cuddle up with when you've just had too much.

    Promising review: "This product is fantastic and precisely what I was searching for. There were many other options, but the rave reviews on this one sold me. I'll start with the warms both my shoulders and neck all in one swoop and is great for relieving stress and tension. The design leaves me able to walk around with it draping over my shoulders, and sitting upright in my office chair for work. Other neck wrap styles I've had in the past left me with having to stay put and propped up on the couch." —shellynn9876

    Get it from Amazon for $16.79+.

    3. An adult coloring book so you can Picasso the shit out of your anger.

    Promising review: "I bought this as a birthday present for my best friend who's almost constantly stressed out from her demanding schedule. I chose this particular version over similar ones namely because it has more pages and the illustrations are complex enough to be challenging without being too excessive to finish coloring in an hour or two. She absolutely loves it and was so excited that she went around to everyone else at her party to show them various pages. I think the best endorsement was that I got a text from her at 2:15 a.m. when she was too anxious to sleep and had started coloring to take her mind off everything. This product was exactly what I wanted!" —Michelle Johnson

    Get it from Amazon for $9.47.

    4. An crocheted F-bomb stress ball for those moments when you just might ~explode~ and strangle someone.

    Get it from Loving Touch Crafts on Etsy for $10.95 (available in 10 colors).

    5. A lavender oil roll-on you can apply to the inside of your wrists for the sweet smell of relaxation.

    Promising review: "This is my first time buying an essential oil. I bought this brand based on the other reviews and because I wanted an undiluted, 100% pure oil. This lavender has a wonderfully fresh woody and lavender scent. It is not watery. The bottle top has its own dropper top that does not leak, so you won't lose a lot. It drips with a shake upside down. I added a few drops to a bath and it smelled great and was super relaxing. I would recommend this product." —Julie

    Get it from Amazon for $6.49+ (available in four sizes).

    6. A motivational journal for those moments when you need to put your thoughts down on paper.

    Promising review: "I absolutely am in love with this journal. I think what makes it psychologically so easy with this journal is that you only really need to do one page a day, and the limited space per prompt makes 'writing down your life' much less intimidating. The quotes are consistently thoughtful and funny. I love that at the bottom of each journal page, there are the three cups you can tick: full, half-full, and crumpled up and empty. It's a nice way of keeping track of when and why I feel defeated and incapable of confidently facing the day. The colors are beautiful on each page, and the page is heavy stock and feels high quality." —Amazon Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $18.

    7. A set of aromatherapy sticks that will satisfy your urge when you want to burn something down.

    Promising review: "I love these! The scent they give is wonderful. I've tried other flower scented ones and they always gave some kind of wood burning scent along with it, but not these. Plus, what I really love is the fact that the scent stays for hours after burning. I use mine at bedtime and when I wake, the garden scent remains." —Manuel L Perez

    Get it from Amazon for $7.99+ (available in 6 scents).

    8. A heavenly scalp massager to stop time and space.

    Promising review: "I bought these for my mother who is having a few health problems. I thought they would help relieve some of the anxiety that she is experiencing because of pain. I am very pleased to report that they are. The look on her face when she used one the first time spoke volumes. Very happy with this product." —Leatha H.

    Get a set of two from Amazon for $8.99.

    9. A self-help book — it's not too sappy and is very worth the read.

    It Books

    Promising review: "The author has a wonderful way of disarming the reader, then explaining meditation at a basic level. The mystique is removed, and the focus is on the substance. Many myths are dispelled in these pages. Highly recommended as an enjoyable introduction to a complex and foreign subject to many. This sparked my lifelong interest in meditation and mindfulness." —Ethan Liebermann

    Get it from Amazon for $8.69+.

    10. A fidget cube to help you get all your nervous energy out.

    Promising review: "Having owned several of these types of fidget cubes that I purchased locally, I have found this fidget cube to be my most favorite. The quality of this cube surpasses the rest. This cube is solid, has a great weight to it, and the rubber coating makes it very comfortable in my hand. All of the pieces on this cube work very well and again, I have found the quality to be better than what I have previously owned. It comes with its own carrying case which is great for throwing it in my purse when I am on the go, or just storing it when not in use." —Donna Gall

    Get it from Amazon for $13.99 (available in three colors).

    11. A desktop punching bag so you can become the next Rocky and defeat the nasty Mr. T (who may just be a coworker...who knows).

    Promising review: "I bought this as a funny gift for our office holiday gift exchange. Through a weird series of events and gift swaps, I actually ended up with it myself. I stuck it on the filing cabinet behind my desk, and it has been there ever since. My coworkers all love it. People give it a smack when they walk by, or punch it when they come over to ask me something. I've hit it a bunch of times, with a good bit of force, and it's never come loose, not even when being hit hard and in rapid succession. Even so, it's easy to peel the suction cup up if we do need to move it. Overall I think it's great and would definitely buy it again." —Chemist52

    Get it from Amazon for $19.95+ (available in 3 styles).

    12. A yoga mat that will remind you to breathe when you tense up.

    Get it from Ahavti Life Style on Etsy for $69.

    13. A handy bullshit button for those times when you just gotta call it like it is.

    Promising review: "This BS button is great ! A must have if you're tired off all the BS that surrounds us in everyday life. It comes with batteries and has several different BS sayings. I love it." —RICHARD JARAMILLO

    Get it from Amazon for $7.39.

    14. A portable massager — it might help untangle even the most stubborn knots.

    Promising review: "I purchased this based on other reviews and was not disappointed. Sitting at a computer all day caused tension in my shoulders and neck. This not only gives a deep massage, but it's portable. It came with a wall and car charger. The strap on the back makes it easy to attach to the car seat or office chair. You can also choose heat or no heat. My son plays basketball and used it for sore calf muscles and it was effective." —Amazon Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $20.99.

    15. A box of stress relief tea so you can sip away when life gets tough.

    Promising review: "This delicious tea really does work. I suffer from some anxiety disorders and take meds for that, but still have breakthrough anxiety quite often. I have a cup of this tea and in a short while I notice that I feel much better. It smells and tastes wonderful. Each tea bag tag has a little saying on it which is really sweet. Each tea bag is in a separately sealed packet." —Susan

    Get it from Amazon for $3.98+ (available in different servings).

    16. A jar of candy chill pills that are perfect for popping.

    Promising review: "I bought a 'chill pill jar' as a gift for my Dad, and was SO pleased with it that I bought another one to keep for myself! They are REALLY cute, and work GREAT for storing any sweet treats. I love it!" —Tracy

    Get it from Scripture Gifts on Etsy for $4.15 (available in various themes in a clear or amber bottle).

    17. A stress relief puzzle that will help you focus when your mind feels like total chaos.

    Promising review: "Shipping was fast. The puzzle pieces were cut nicely and came in a cute little gift box. I bought this as a Christmas gift for my mother and can't wait to give it to her. I will be ordering from this site again. The puzzle pieces were set in a beautiful high gloss finish and the image was very clear." —Melissa

    Get it from Gods Accessories on Zazzle for $17.90+ (available in 7 sizes and can customize image).

    18. A WTF ink stamp to express how you truly feel without even opening your mouth.

    Promising review: "I work in accounting and receive a lot of paperwork that you would not believe. I used to wonder to myself, 'WTF?' but now I can share that thought with the rest of my department and supervisors without saying a word. Everyone I work with loves this stamp, and usually could not agree with it more. If your office has a sense of humor, this is the stamp for you." —adamjleach

    Get it from Amazon for $8.29.

    19. A dead sea minerals facial mask that will leave you feeling totally reborn.

    Promising review: "I absolutely love this product. It’s the best face mask out there. It does wonders for my skin. I have combination skin (super dry in some areas, but I get blackheads around my T-zone). This product minimizes my pores and brightens my complexion. It’s very refreshing rather than drying, which I find other masks to be. I highly recommend!" —Ellis Others

    Get it from Amazon for $14.89+ for a set of 3 (available in 3 sizes).

    The reviews for this post have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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