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    This Trans Woman's Boyfriend Shared Why People Questioning Their Relationship Is "Disgusting," And It's Starting An Important Conversation

    "I know that you're a perfect, beautiful woman, and you always have been."

    This is Jayde Mcfarlane — a TikToker who shares comedic sketches about her life as a trans woman — and her boyfriend, Tyler. The couple recently went viral after responding to a commenter who suggested Jayde must be keeping her identity a secret from Tyler, and that he would not continue a relationship with her if he knew she was trans.

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    "Do you know that I'm trans?" Jayde asked Tyler in a now massively viral video that has been viewed over 5.4 million times.


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    "Yeah," Tyler confirmed. "I know that you're a perfect, beautiful woman, and you always have been."

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    While the sentiment was enough to make Jayde's lip quiver as she appeared visibly touched by his words, Tyler took it a step further and explained exactly why the suggestion that Jayde being trans would keep him from loving her is both damaging and anti-trans:

    "First off, I want to say trans women are real women," Tyler began. "They're completely valid in their femininity. And the fact that people think that just because someone's trans and I found out — or anyone found out that their significant other is trans — that [this] would take away or diminish the love they have for them, [it's] completely disgusting to me."

    Instagram: @jaydemcfarlane / Via

    "People take out their own insecurities and things they're worried about from their past, and try to apply it to this situation — [it's] disgusting," Tyler continued. "Just because you're unhappy in life doesn't mean we need to be, too."

    Instagram: @jaydemcfarlane / Via

    Jayde's comment section quickly filled with an outpouring of support for her and her boyfriend's speech.

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    Others were inspired by their relationship and felt connected to and represented by the message.

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    When speaking to BuzzFeed about navigating negativity online, Jayde said, "I receive negative comments on a daily basis, consisting of people misgendering me and telling me how what I’m doing with my life is wrong and a mistake. I wish people would realize how one rude comment can stick with someone forever and create new insecurities."

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    "I refuse to let online negativity affect me because it’s always coming from someone who’s uneducated or someone who’s going through a lot and thinks that hating on someone online is going to make them feel better about themselves," Jayde said. "I usually don’t go through my comments anymore. ... I won’t feel bad about myself because of what others think. There’s absolutely no point when I could be happy, because what really matters is [what I] think about myself."

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    Through her platform, the couple hopes their relationship can inspire others like them to live happily together.

    "In my community, relationships are such a hard topic for all of us, and I feel like me showing my relationship publicly lets other trans women and men know we can be loved and cared for, too."

    Instagram: @jaydemcfarlane / Via

    You can keep up with Jayde and Tyler's journey by following Jayde on TikTok and Instagram.

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