When Twitter user Kemah Bob reflected on the fact that mixed-race people often experience racism not only from the outside world, but from their family members as well, many people joined the dialogue to share their own firsthand experiences with the issue. With the conversation now open, even more took to the comment section of our piece to tell their own stories. Here are some of the most eye-opening replies:
1."I'm half Black, half white. My mom is French, but when visiting America at 16, she fell in love with an American Black man. Finding out that she was pregnant with me was a shock, and she decided to keep the father's identity hidden from my racist grandparents. Assuming the dad was a white man, they were very supportive, but when they found out, they disapproved. When I came, they immediately disowned her because I was 'too dark to pass for one of us.'"
3."I’m half Black and half Filipino. I hated going to Filipino parties with my mom because I would hear things the other Filipinos would say about me. They would call me derogatory names for being Black when my mom wasn’t around and they didn’t think I was listening. It hurt so much and I never told my mom because she enjoyed the parties. It still weighs heavily on me because, despite the fact that I’m literally half, I don’t feel Filipino at all because they will never accept me."
5."I'm half Black, half Moroccan, and my husband is white from Louisiana. When we had our first child, his mother's first response to our son was that 'he's such a good color.' My jaw was on the floor. Needless to say, she's changed her tune, but not the rest of his family. They wonder why they're never around our children."
6."When my mom (Taiwanese) got engaged to my father (white), his parents asked him 'what his children would look like.' To this day they still avoid her, and they use the term Oriental casually in front of us like it's no big deal. Being mixed-race puts you in a unique and painful position."
7."My grandmother claimed to love my brother and sisters, but she also didn’t shy away from calling them Oreos. I had to train her not to say that kind of thing by hanging up on her every single time she did it."
11."My daughter is half Black and half Asian from her dad. His family was so disappointed in her hair being curly and not straight. His mom and niece actually tried straightening it a few times when she was 2! And whenever she got a tan during the summer, they would make comments like, 'Oh, she got Black.' I hated visiting them because they were the type of family that used whitening creams and the lightest shade of makeup."
12."Growing up in Los Angeles and being brown meant getting called names and being told to go back to Mexico. And then I went home and listened to my Native American father using the same words and insults toward our Latino neighbors. It was very confusing."
13."My mother is half Vietnamese and half French. Her grandmother on her father's side of the family always treated her as an 'other' and blatantly treated her French cousins better. When my sister was pregnant with her Ethiopian husband's baby, my mother, who was raised Catholic, told my father that she should get an abortion."
14."On my dad's side, everyone is Jewish, then my mom's side is mostly Latino. Whenever I would stay at my maternal grandma's house and woke up with my natural curls, she'd say, 'Your Jewish is showing, go straighten your hair.'"
15."My father is Black, my mother is Latin American, and she married a Scottish man in my early childhood. My half-siblings have blonde hair and blue eyes. Anything I did that was considered acting out was 'acting Black,' and I shouldn't be doing that. I grew up very, very confused and still struggle with how to identify myself."
16."Being half Black and white has opened my eyes to a lot of prejudices and segregation from both sides. About two years ago, my dad (who's Black) brought me and my siblings to meet his side of the family. When meeting them, we were met with a slight judgment and were constantly looked up and down. One of my uncles, who had never met us before, stated, 'Now I'm kinda seeing why you married that woman' (about my white mother) after deeming my height slightly satisfactory."