Here’s What It’s Like To Be The Most Popular Woman On OkCupid

Ready for the train to Facepalm Central everyone?

1. Meet Lauren Urasek.

You may remember that earlier this year, OKCupid­ co-founder Christian Rudder analyzed the data on the site from a one-week period in January and found that Lauren was the most popular straight woman.

According to NYMag: “She gets around three dozen emails a day; in the last seven months, she’s received five-star ratings from nearly 8,000 men.”

2. It prompted some debate online about exactly why she was so popular.

3. Was it her looks, the tattoos, certain interests – like astronomy – in her profile, the fact she wasn’t looking for anything serious, or all these things?

What we hadn’t really seen, in any detail, was how guys went about approaching her.

4. On Friday, Lauren wrote this piece for XoJane.

It includes the lines: “I’m a technology geek turned make-up artist in my 20s who spends my time studying astronomy, watching hockey and sipping whiskey. I haven’t ever claimed to be the hottest piece of ass out there, and growing up as an ugly duckling, it was a surprise.”

And as Lauren tells BuzzFeed: “When I found out I was ‘the most popular’ I was pretty shocked and flattered and never thought it would turn into so much attention.”

In her piece she says: “I guess it’s flattering to receive the messages I do, but, when it comes down to it, it’s not really benefiting me.”

5. And we can now turn to her Tumblr for an indication of why this might be the case.

CAVEAT: as Lauren writes on the blog: “The majority of the messages I get ARE decent. The scum bag idiots are a small percentage.”

But still.

6. Whut.

Lauren tells BuzzFeed: “It’s hard to say how many of the douchey responses are actual attempts since I don’t really respond back to most of them. I had a guy friend say one time that it would be funny if I really did respond seriously to them because he’s sure a lot of them would back out and not actually know what to do.”

9. Feel free to take a moment.

10. “The grammar is destroying me.”

Lauren says: “It’s hard to give an actual ratio of what “normal” messages I get because it constantly goes up and down. For the most part though, I know not all guys are losers and these messages represent the select few. I only created the blog for entertainment. Nobody would want to see the other boring messages I get.”

11. “Let’s just talk about how random this is and thank you for saying that so I can decide to stop conversing with you.”

12. “No, I can’t help you out.”

15. It goes on and on. In summary:

16. So has it put her off online dating? Well, she says:

I have never believed there is one specific “Mr. Right” for everyone. I think we can all get along very well with probably hundreds of thousands of people. I don’t put too much pressure on online dating and who knows if I’ll meet my next relationship online or at a NHL hockey game. I haven’t even gone on an online date in probably over a month.

All the new-found attention is definitely awesome and mostly positive but I’m still just a normal girl who could probably be your friend so people need to lay off and realize I was contacted by New York magazine and Xojane. I was never seeking attention and I’m actually a pretty humble, nice girl. It’s funny that having an opinion in real life makes people shut up, but, on the internet it makes people say the meanest things possible to you.

17. Anyway, while she’s waiting, Lauren wants you to know she’s got Meemow to keep her company.

Hi Meemow.

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Alan White is a news editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in London.
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