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18 Unpopular Opinions About Sex That You May Or May Not Agree With

To each their own.

We recently asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us their unpopular opinions about sex, and they had some interesting takes. Here's what the people had to say:

Note: Obviously everyone's bodies, experiences, and interests are different, so keep doing your thing. Just make sure you communicate with your partner(s) and always have consent.

1. Kissing during sex isn't enjoyable.

"It's distracting and kissing with tongue is disgusting."


"Kissing is overrated. I love pecks and even slightly parted kisses, but please do not try to make out with me. I don’t like kissing people at all if we’re not dating."


2. Anal sex can be just as enjoyable as vaginal sex for straight women.

"I'm a straight female and if you do it right, anal can be the best."


3. Doggy style is the WORST position.

"Cosmo has led everyone to believe it's awesome because the penis goes deeper, but there is nothing sexy about someone slamming their dick into my cervix."


4. Sex doesn’t have to be just about making each other come.

"It’s about feeling good and taking care of each other and listening to each other. I personally just want my partner to have a good time and I kinda get off on them getting off."


5. Morning sex is gross.

"Morning sex makes me want to die. It only looks so sexy on TV and in movies. Does nobody have morning breath? Does nobody wake up sweaty? I just don’t understand and I find it repulsive."


6. Mutual masturbation is kinda great.

"There’s nothing wrong with mutual masturbation. It’s really hot and always satisfying. Struggling to make each other orgasm doesn’t mean your relationship is a failure."


7. Toys aren't just for masturbation.

"Using toys with a partner makes sex so much more fun in my opinion and can almost guarantee an orgasm for myself. Couples vibrators, a wand, handcuffs, clamps, etc. I think that more people should have a 'toy chest' when they 'play.'"


8. Sex that lasts long ISN'T better.

"I don’t like it when sex takes too long. Like my vagina is tired, please."


9. Reverse cowgirl isn't much fun.

"I feel like I have no idea how my guy is feeling because I can’t see him, I get bored and distracted since I don’t have anything to look at, and my legs get tired. Not a fan."


10. Bigger penises aren't better.

"Larger penises are more effort to suck, they constantly make you sore, and you have to get used to them. It’s just not something I’d actually want long term. I prefer an average-sized penis; big enough to get the job done but not too big that it hurts my vagina or my jaw!"


11. 69 is a terrible position.

"I don’t want to work while I’m being worked on. It takes the pleasure away from me and it's just no fun at all."


12. Dirty talk isn't hot.

"Making sounds is fine, but I don’t want to hear some cheesy sh*t that’d you’d hear in a porno. I’m not gonna say anything dirty in response. I will literally tell someone to shut up. Some instructions are fine but that’s it."


13. Dry humping is highly underrated.

"Wish there was a better term for that."


14. Outdoor sex is usually uncomfortable and awkward.

"There’s mosquitos, sand, scratchy grass, you name it. And don’t get me started on sunburns on parts that usually don’t see much sunlight."


15. Spit is a total turnoff.

"I don't know if it's just people taking their ideas from porn or what, but it's a thing people try to do and I just find spitting on body parts, or visible saliva, to be absolutely repulsive."


16. Missionary is underrated.

"It’s feels the most intimate, you get a lot of body-to-body contact, you can kiss easily, and I like seeing the person’s face!"


17. Shower sex actually isn't that sexy.

"It washes away natural lubrication, you get cold easily, and slippery bodies means there's a more likely chance of accidents happening. Pre-sex showering together, however, is great."


18. And being in love doesn't necessarily make sex better:

"Lots of people say the best sex is with someone you love. I agree that I have great sex with people I love, but I’ve also had great sex with one-night stands and friends with benefits. Great sex doesn’t always have to be with people you have an emotional connection with."


Which of these opinions do you agree or disagree with? What are some of your unpopular sex opinions? Let us know in the comments below.

Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.

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