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21 Tips To Be The Best You, You Can Be

Through life everybody faces ups and downs, but it’s the way you handle them that matters. In the past few weeks in Psych we learn various ways to better your life and yourself as a person. Here are the top 21 things I found the most useful.

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1. Avoid Stress to Build Your Cognitive Skills

When you have less stress in your life, the networks that execute brain functions become stronger than other neural networks. In other words, being more relaxed can strengthen your skills with planning, decision making, error correction, and troubleshooting.

2. Think Creatively

Everybody has done a crossword puzzle or a word search before, others enjoy them more than some. But in order to contain the information to maintain your memory , if all you like to do is solve the same word puzzles everyday then your brain connection and the other parts of the brain that aren’t being used will die off. In your life you need variety.

3. Exercising Even for a Little Bit Makes Everything Okay

Exercise doesn't always mean go for a 5 mile run or do a high intensity workout. It can be as simple as taking the stairs instead of the elevator, going for a walk. It does not matter just get up and move for 30 minutes a day. A healthy body and healthy mind will improve your study skills.

4. One key to bettering yourself is finding your flow. Set clear goals, concentrate,and create a sense of control.

There are 8 ways to find your flow

Clarity of goals and immediate feedback

A high level of concentration on a limited field

Balance between skills and challenge

The feeling of control


An altered perception of time

The melting together of action and consciousness

The autotelic quality of flow- experiences

6. More than 40% of the actions performed each day are habits, not conscious decisions.

Thus, the key to productivity and becoming your ideal self is to establish good habits. The key to establishing good habits is to understand the habit cycle. A habit is activated by a cue, which can be a place, a time, a person or people, an emotion, or a behavior. The cue initiates the habit and the habit elicits a reward. The reward is what establishes and maintains the habit. The reward creates a craving for the habit.

7. To establish a new habit you have to establish a simple and obvious cue and clearly define the rewards.

To start a new exercise habit, for example, put your running shoes and clothes at the foot of your bed to cue the running habit and then relish in the post-run endorphin rush while you shower (the rewards).

8. The Golden Rule: You can't extinguish a bad habit, you can only change it.

When an urge or craving to do your bad habit comes on, note where you are, who you are with, what you are doing, how you feel, and what time it is. You also have to figure out what you’re getting out of it. Are you drinking because you like being drunk or because it distracts you from your stress? Are you snacking because you are hungry or because you are bored?

9. Acknowledge Your Mistakes

There are certain steps you need to take in order to better yourself. One of the early steps would be to accept the fact that you make mistakes. You are not perfect and you should open your eyes to see that.

10. Consider the Consequences

Consider every thing that can go wrong from procrastinating, and use this to motivate yourself to not. Take a school exam for example. If you procrastinate when studying, or don’t study at all, you are more than likely to get a bad grade as well.

11. Multitasking is shitty, just stick to one task at a time.

Multitasking may be detrimental when it comes to doing many complex tasks. Our brains are not equipped to handle more than one task, specifically when the tasks require any expansive thought or time. This does not mean that you can’t do many simple tasks such as loading the dishwasher while talking to your friend, but you can’t do tasks such as driving a car and talking on the phone.

12. “Me” Time

Sometimes in life you just need a break and need to focus on you. Simple ways to do this are having a spa day, or going shopping. If you’re in the mood to listen to one of your favorite artist try and go to one of their concerts. There is no way to be stressed and unhappy when you are getting lit to your favorite rapper or singer.

14. Find Your Passion and Lead with Purpose

Passion begins with enjoying what you do. Remember that interests must be triggered again and again. Find ways to make that happen, but you need to have patience because the development of interests takes time. Purpose is the backbone of your work, it states that your work matters. You must open your eyes and see that your passions drive your purpose in life.

15. No Offense but…

Don't take criticisms personally so that you are actually able to grow and learn from it. It helps when you approach a situation with rational mind. Along with that, it would be wise to see that same situation from every perspective.

16. Having a Fixed Mindset is Holding You Back

You can approach the world either by thinking that hard work and perseverance will make you better (that is having a growth mindset), or that you have only a certain amount of innate talent (that is having a fixed mindset). People with a growth mindset perform better at school, sports, work, and relationships than those with fixed mindsets. Simply learning about the growth mindset can dramatically improve the way you approach challenges and improve your life. Start fixing yourself now by watching Dweck’s TED talk and reading her book.

18. Choose your Will Powers Wisely

The 3 types of willpower are,“I won’t” power, “I will” power, and “I want” power. The “Won’t” power is being able to resist temptations. The “Will” power is the force to help you reach the goals that you have set for yourself. The “I want” power is what reminds you of your long term goals that you need the most.

20. Think outside your box, not inside others.

We have a tendency to follow anything that looks like an authoritative figure. They show confidence and knowledge, and that makes us feel comfortable. Although we act like this is not our fault since we were taught at a young age to follow instructions from our elders or leaders. And although it was always considered a good thing as kids, sometimes it isn't as great as it seems.

21. Finding Your Inner “Self”

To find your attachment style, you must get to know your “inner voice,” which is the thing that guides you through life and how you see the world. It also encourages us to recreate our early life experiences through our many different types of behavior. The thing to note however, is that changing our behavior is possible.

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