BTW, in case it isn’t clear,Ithink that you, Kyle, are correct to note how hard it is to talk about this and the stigma involved with even having these conversations. I’m willing to takeacalculated and contextual risk from time to time.Ithink most people are. AndIthink what drives me to be open to that is the same thing that you’re describing.Ijust come down on this atadifferent point in the continuum of risky behavior (rules for me: unprotected sex is rare, no unprotected sex with men who are poz, no one gets off inside me, no drugs-EVER, clear and sober conversation about status with all partners, only doing unprotected sex with friends, only doing unprotected sex with men who aren’t having lots of high-risk sex, and ensuring that my partners have been tested very recently-sometimes in front of me). And for those who are moralizing in the posts here, they should know or acknowledge that LOTS of people are taking such risks all the time. I’d love to see more people making “safer” risk choices, so to speak, but I’d say of the men I’ve had sex with in the past 5-10 years, those who were consistent and insistent on condom use were the minority.Asmall minority. AndItend not to have sex with guys who would be defined as particularly wild in their sexual behavior, soIcan only imagine what it would be like to haveareally representative body of sexually active gay and bi men.