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      I’m fat.Iadmit it. AndIhave huge self-esteem issues. Regardless of the fact thatIhaveawonderful husband and beautiful daughter andafamily that loves me “just the wayIam,”Iam CONSTANTLY worried that people are gawking and judging me just like these photos supposedly depict. Having been fat sinceIwas 12 and having endured actual bullying from strangers because of it,Ican’t help but have anxiety in crowds. Many commenters are going off about how they believe the people doing the gawking are doing so because the photographer is dressed badly or blocking traffic or taking pictures of herself onabusy street and they aren’t judging her on her appearance. Many other people are making comments about how she should dress or behave differently (long pants, long sleeves, no bending over, etc.) and they are the people that Haley (the artist) andIare afraid of onadaily basis. Did anything think that maybe Haley is capturing her own perceptions about how she feels inacrowd? AnytimeIam in any situation with someone other than my husband or daughter,Iimagine and sincerely believe that there is, at least, ONE person in said crowd who is looking at me inanegative way because I’m “gross,” “disgusting,” “sloppy,” “ugly,” “unhealthy,” and all the rest of the terms you hear skinny fat haters say (or write). Perhaps the people in these photos are conveying their annoyance at her blocking traffic or being dressed weird, etc., but, to Haley and me andalot of other fat women in society, every negative facial expression really is directed at us and is conveying disgust at our weight. If you are told something enough times, you begin to believe it. You truly can’t judgeaperson until you’ve walkedamile in their shoes…regardless of their weight or issues. Just throwing in my two cents.