Men frequently have a say in the woman getting an abortion, but how often do they have a say in her not getting one? If a woman gets pregnant and wants to have an abortion, but the man wants to raise the kid, odds are she’s going to have an abortion anyway. And as for what SHOULD happen in that scenario, I have no clue. I think it’s horribly unfair that the father of the child can be denied the right to raise the kid if he wants, but at the same time, it’d be horribly unfair to force the woman to carry and deliver a child if she doesn’t want to, particularly given the health risks (which are much higher for having a baby than for having an abortion). Plus, it’s entirely possible the father could change his mind and walk out and leave the woman with a baby she never wanted. If he signed some sort of legal agreement saying he was responsible for the baby and all its expenses, I guess it could be doable, but it still seems sort of unfair to the woman who doesn’t want to be pregnant. It’s a really complicated issue, in my opinion.

Agreed; however, I think the condom use is far from a being purely a male decision. Both parties involved need to take ownership of safe sexual conduct- the woman needs to be adamant about ‘absolutely no way thats going anywhere near me’ unless a condom is worn. It should not be a ‘male choice’, or the man ‘taking control’ of his body; guidelines have to be set and enforced by both individuals.  When I stated the father’s voice is rarely heard, I was referring to open and public discourse on the issue, not on private conversations between couples.