My husband and I have been married a few weeks short of a year. We got married in Washington DC, but live in North Carolina. Unfortunately, our marriage means nothing in NC. God forbid either one of us ends up in the hospital, since we're an interracial, gay male couple, there's little hope of the other getting back to the emergency room.  Every federal and state form we fill out must say single, even when we bought our house. I don't understand how we are the ones destroying the sanctity of marriage, when any heterosexual couple is allowed to get married whenever they want, with little to no consequence. At only a year, we've already lasted longer than many straight couples, yet their marriage is still more valid than ours. If they don't allow gay marriage, they shouldn't allow divorce either! Divorce seems to be the real culprit in destroying the sanctity of marriage!