one of my friends (not black) has a super curly hair, and people are quite compelled to touch it (not just her friends. when she went to china, for example, people in the rural areas also kept touching it because it’s so uncommon). i think we’re curious about things that are different from us. it comes out as insensitive, but the underlying reason is pure curiosity and an attempt to learn more. it’s also true for religions and their respective holidays (some coworkers always wanted me to make them traditional foods on holidays).