…First off, that has to really disappoint his wife. Secondly, aside from abstinence being fucking ridiculous, waiting is pretty nice (waiting a few dates, not a few years) because the tension builds and hopefully you're able to work “on yourself” long enough and do enough google searches to make it fucking mind-blowing. Thank god for all the Buffy fanfiction I read when I was 14 - my first time was a BLAST.