Also just saw comments of people saying “You should TOTALLY live with someone before you marry them.” And “Why would you ever need to ask permission to marry somebody?” Well, good for you if that’s how you feel about living together. But that isn’t always possible for some people and some people still want a little mystery between them and that’s fine too. I know couples who lived together before they got married and that was fine for them. I also know couples who didn’t. The people who didn’t seemed to feel that marriage was a big, exciting change and the people who did lived together seemed to feel like it was no big deal as nothing changed anyway. That’s cool too. It’s about what works for YOU. Stop judging others. As for the permission aspect, no one should ever HAVE to seek the permission from someone’s parents. You should be able to marry whoever you want and your parents should respect that. But in my case, even though my parents would want me to be happy and make my own decisions, it’s a respect/consideration thing to ask permission beforehand. I don’t know if my other siblings had someone ask my parents or asked their father or mother in law, but for me, I’m the youngest of the family & happen to be a girl. However, both my stepdad and dad raised me and both would appreciate being asked. Even if my parents say no, I’d want the guy to ask anyway, because my parents and I have different perspectives (for example I am nearly 28 and just got in trouble last night for posting a Chris Rock quote with an F bomb. Hahahaha. Dad said one day I’d regret using such language. I said “Maybe” even though I know I won’t give a shit.) But it’s a respect thing that I hear him out, say maybe he is right, consider it. Then I do my own thing. Generally, if my parents feel so strongly that I shouldn’t be marrying someone, we probably have the same concerns. But you never know. Ultimately asking permission for them isn’t really needing permission, it’s saying, “I realize this is your last unmarried child and youngest daughter. It matters to me what you think. I want you to know I respect you.” And that’s beautiful to me.