Ajrt, I’m going to guess you aren’t married. Let me explain to you a thing. I love my husband. We’ve been a couple for nearly 15 years, and married for almost ten. We have great sex. We don’t have it everyday… we may not even have it every week… but that neither means the sex we have isn’t great, nor does it mean we don’t love each other. (Nor does it mean that every single time we have sex is totally perfect and mind blowing. Occasionally it’s just okay. That’s okay, married people! Spend a lifetime having sex with someone and occasionally it’s not going to be the most perfect ever! Life goes on!) Sex is one expression of love an intimacy, but it is by no means the only one, the most important one (no matter what anyone tells you), nor a requirement of every marriage. Nor does it mean that a couple must maintain a certain minimum frequency throughout their marriage. Sometimes you want to get at it er’ry day, sometimes you’d really rather not, and THAT’S OKAY. And honestly, if you want sex more than your partner does, (general you), I have to wonder whether you ACTUALLY want your partner to have sex when they don’t actually want to, or if you just want your partner to fundamentally change how often they want sex, which, why don’t YOU try doing that and see how it turns out, mmmkay? Life is more than sex, and so is marriage. Yes, 3 times in 27 attempts might seem low to you, but to me it’s totally within reason. tl;dr: marriage is not about getting your dick wet. Relax.