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It's the opposite of honesty. Defining words to mean the OPPOSITE of what they actually mean (claiming, for instance, that engaging in unprotected sex with a drug-user you met that day is not self-destructive) is a kind of lying. The piece is a series of self-serving falsehoods,… Read More

Condoms aren't foolproof, therefore we are justified in not using them at all? Wow. This really is what passes for logic among some of us. According to magnificent demonstration of human reasoning ability, since we run some risk of dying when we skydive, we might as well jump… Read More

"I believe it's a phrase people use to make you feel ashamed about very real desires and habits you have." There is a breathtaking lapse of logic, a massive brain-fail, right here. Of course, there are plenty of those throughout this whole piece, which is beyond contemptible… Read More

I just want to highlight Tom Allsup's comment, because it really does say it all about this piece: "I have heard these all these self-serving pathetic excuses for unsafe, self-destructive sex for the past 30 years. ("The drugs made me do it!")..Please! Just own it, Queen! You… Read More

You've got the ACT-UP Silence = Death poster in the graphic at the top of this article. I agree that silence = death. Gay men as a group are too silent about the things that some among us do that hurt us, and even kill us. Because of our experiences growing up in often-hostile… Read More

Part of honesty is honestly calling unsafe and reckless behavior what it is. It's not honest to pretend that ANY condomless sex with a "casual partner" is safe. It's not. Period. 1 in 5 gay men in the U.S. have HIV, and 20% of that number do not know they are infected. So… Read More

<i>As this conversation illustrates, being safer means belitted, called names, and told that people know better than me.</i> You&#39;re not being "safer." Period. There&#39;s nothing to debate. What this conversation illustrates is that you DO want to be affirmed for your choice… Read More

You know what was normal and common, among gay men, in my lifetime? Death from AIDS. But some people decided that, hey, let&#39;s try to make that NOT normal and common among gay men. Let&#39;s try to stop this from being so normal and common. And one of the ways they tried to stop… Read More